mr.goodguy Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 TVS give us some more details. Your age? How long were you going out for? Who broke up? We'll get you through this...
Nohbody Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 I want to break NC, too. Everyone does. It's not going to help anything, there's nothing you can do. They're gone.
SillyS Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 I want to break NC, too. Everyone does. It's not going to help anything, there's nothing you can do. They're gone. He's not gone. He's in Canada. I want to break it to. Just call or email him and tell him how much I miss him. Its paralyzing bad. EuphoricDuffer; No Contact
radiodarcy Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 what does nc stand for? hi, NC stands for no contact: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t281193/
radiodarcy Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 TVS, i've had those days too. each time i felt compelled to break NC, i reminded myself of how bad i would feel when he either: 1.) didn't respond 2.) did respond and either not give me the response i want or worse, tell me he is with someone else. breaking NC is a surefire way to make a bad day even worse.
marqueemoon4 Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 breaking NC is a surefire way to make a bad day even worse. ah, she beat me to it. 100% true though.
Author TheVSilent Posted August 1, 2011 Author Posted August 1, 2011 She broke up with me, 5 years together, I did some bad things. Been broken up since May 13th and she hasn't talked to me since. It kills me, it really does! I've made it this far today without breaking it, and my counselor tells me it will do nothing, but for some reason I just want her to know I still care. I regret so many things, and I'm trying to just forgive myself and move on! I don't get why I can't just do it.
1Dunno Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 TVS, i've had those days too. each time i felt compelled to break NC, i reminded myself of how bad i would feel when he either: 1.) didn't respond 2.) did respond and either not give me the response i want or worse, tell me he is with someone else. breaking NC is a surefire way to make a bad day even worse. Ditto. After breaking up with the ex I would sometimes email her and for some stupid reason expect a response like she used to give when we were together. Don't get me wrong, logging onto my email or picking up my phone half expecting an email/text and there not being one is a s**t feeling. But not half as bad as the half-assed responses she gave on occasion. It's just not worth it. It makes you look desperate and makes you feel even worse.
Author TheVSilent Posted August 7, 2011 Author Posted August 7, 2011 Is it dumb for me to think she will ever talk to me again? I know I did some bad things to her, but do things ever become civil over time or am I just the guy that messed her up? I didn't end up breaking NC, I stayed strong because I thought it would be selfish of me to pry into her life when she is trying to move on. I get the feeling that she just is so happy, that this never made her feel sad, and that hurts. I know I deserve this, but she went from being my best friend (That I treated so wrong) to my nothing. I am venting here, I just need to vent, it has been 3 months, and it has been the toughest 3 months of my life.
SillyS Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 It's not healthy to think about their progress in this time. No contact is about us, about protecting and forgiving yourself for everything that happened during the relationship. So don't worry about her being happy or her crying every night over this, because at the end of the day you are not with her anymore. She is choosing to move on, and you should do the same. It's about your healing. They could be hurt, they could be trying to move on, so we should always be strong to respect their wishes and process everything ourselves. No contact great. I recently learned that we can block them on hotmail from emailing us, so that's what I did. It's not really about contact only, but also about anticipating or hoping that they will contact us and change their minds hopefully. I don't want to be in a situation where one of us contacts the other, and our progress is comprised in any way or shape. So I won't and he can't! Those types of hopeful ideas are harmful to our progress as we go our separate ways. Plus, we claim we love these people and they left us. No contact for me is also about showing that love, if I love him as much as I think I do, then I need to let him go and let him be in less pain if I was causing that in any way or shape.
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