Els Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 TA, I think the question here is... is it really worth it? The publishing of an SO's nude photos is a purely individual relationship dynamic - there is no true right and wrong, just what your SO and you agree on. Personally, I would not make an SO I really cared about unhappy over a 'possible part time job for extra income', especially if said SO was more than happy to supplement that extra income to help me out, as yours appears to be. If it was truly your career aspiration, I would advise you differently - ie if you actually DID want to become the next Tyra Banks. But you don't. It's just for a bit of extra money. If you find it is worth it, then go for it. If you don't, don't.
Star Gazer Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 For your reading pleasure, SG, and anyone else who may be posting in this thread. That was one of my posts on the first page. Snarky, snarky, snarky. I see your efforts not to be reactionary haven't paid off.
Author tigressA Posted August 3, 2011 Author Posted August 3, 2011 This is actually a really good point. I definitely believe in being culturally sensitive if you're dating someone from a different culture. I don't know how traditionally Indian this guy is, but I really think you have to be a bit more careful in discussing anything that gets blurry along cultural lines. Not that you don't discuss it, but I wouldn't get upset that he sees it as scandalous if he was socialized to believe it IS scandalous by his very culture. I wasn't completely sure if this was still the Indian guy or not, so I didn't mention it, but it is totally a valid point. At any rate, tigressA should be talking to her BF about this, not trying to figure out who's "right" or "wrong." It's not really about right and wrong. . . it's about communicating and finding out what each other are really thinking and if the aspirations and her relationship can mesh. We all have to make compromises in life, all over the place, but they have to be of our own choosing for them to be healthy. I did talk to him about it. He seems fine with it now. We established boundaries and whatnot, and he seems much more encouraging. So basically, problem solved.
zengirl Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 I did talk to him about it. He seems fine with it now. We established boundaries and whatnot, and he seems much more encouraging. So basically, problem solved. Good deal. So: four pages of fuss over nothing. Most fights are.
Author tigressA Posted August 3, 2011 Author Posted August 3, 2011 Good deal. So: four pages of fuss over nothing. Most fights are. Actually, the thread helped me when it came to how to approach the discussion with him. So not really nothing. Thanks for your input, always appreciated.
JohnnyCage Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 And about the 'tables turning'--that was about a sex tape and only about a sex tape. Not nude photos. For your reading pleasure, SG, and anyone else who may be posting in this thread. That was one of my posts on the first page. Actually this is what you said in your thread when you had a fight with him over selling your "sex tapes" That's when he dropped the bomb on me. He said that if we ever broke up and he had the chance to make a lot of money (like a million or so) by handing over X-rated material made during our relationship, he would. I think everyone would agree with me that X-rated material includes both videos and pictures. So yes you are a hypocrite.
2sunny Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 most legitimate models are paid to promote a product - clothes, perfume and such... not necessarily their bare skin. that is often referred to as porn. some of what you type here is ambiguous with your BF about where your personal boundary is. there is absolutely NO need for nudity when promoting a companies PRODUCT. they hire YOU to show off what they INTEND TO SELL. so do you intend to get paid for promoting products or just your bare body?
JohnnyCage Posted August 3, 2011 Posted August 3, 2011 most legitimate models are paid to promote a product - clothes, perfume and such... not necessarily their bare skin. that is often referred to as porn. some of what you type here is ambiguous with your BF about where your personal boundary is. there is absolutely NO need for nudity when promoting a companies PRODUCT. they hire YOU to show off what they INTEND TO SELL. so do you intend to get paid for promoting products or just your bare body? She is a gold digger. She will use everything including her body to make money.
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