Flipper Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 This girl and I were very close about 3 years ago, and the 2 years before that... she was in love with me since she was 15, I loved (and still do) this girl with all my heart, but I was in a horrible spot in my life with horrible depression, family issues, etc. and I wasn't ready for a serious relationship... Like, when I think about this girl I get goosbumps because we had that strong of a connection. Is 3 years too long? I actually met up with her about 3 months ago but I still wasn't in a good spot and she could sense that, but in the past 3 months I have gotten my life together more than I ever have in my entire life. Should I get back in contact with her? Do you guys think she would think i was psycho for STILL thinking about her and wanting to be with her 3 years later with no communication? We were talking through text messages after I met up with her but I just wasn't ready yet so I kinda blew her off with making plans and now I am ready after I probably blew it with her...
delilah123 Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 god my tummy dropped when i read this i thought it was my guy at first. we got together when we were 15. we broke up because he wasn't ready for something so serious because the connection was so strong. we occasionally saw eachother at parties for the next 2 years and IMd every now and then. we both thought we were meant for each other, but i had another boyfriend (it started off as a rebound honestly and i just ended up staying with him for 1 1/2).. one day after 2 years, he told me that he had never stopped wanting to be with me and that he would wait as long as it took and he thought i was the only person who he could ever be happy with. dumped me boyfriend 2 weeks later. i remember then 2 weeks after that we were lying in bed together and he said exactly word for word what i'd said to my girlfriend the night before "it's not so much a feeling.. it's more like a fact, we are just meant to be" if you're soul mates, you're soul mates. turns out he still isn't ready for the relationship yet, we have been seeing eachother for 3 1/2ish years now though (which is why your post scared me haha till i read it properly!) .. but yeh we still think we'll get married etc. long story short - you can only tell her. don't come off too strong, fon't tell her you think you're soulmates. just tell her you'd love to catch up sometime and give things a shot. go from there.
Author Flipper Posted August 2, 2011 Author Posted August 2, 2011 long story short - you can only tell her. don't come off too strong, fon't tell her you think you're soulmates. just tell her you'd love to catch up sometime and give things a shot. go from there. I did. I sent her a message on facebook, like 4+ months ago, then we got together one time 3 months ago at a coffee shop, and we were talking through text message and facebook message afterwards, but I kinda blew off the plans we made after that, and I already knew it put her off big time, she was probably thinking "oh he still hasn't changed after all this time." Basically, I was just so attracted to her in every possible way and I was in such a dark spot in my life that I just couldn't stay with her. I haven't talked to her in like a month, I feel like she is sick of me "bull****ting around." What do you think I should do?
delilah123 Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 ask to see her again and don't **** it up this time. if the connection was strong she'll go again... if you have a chance to chat casually (like if you can facebook chat or IM chat with her?) ask to see her over that.. so if she says something that alludes to the fact you blew her off last time, just explain. just say you were in a **** place and you wanna give it another shot. When my guy after those 2 years, teed up our first date, he had to cancel. We ended up going to a party that night that he was at (we had planned on getting dinner before the party, but something came up on his end). I was so so cut, i couldn't believe after everything he would cancel on our 'first' date. At the party I said "well are you sure about this" and he promised to make it up to me etc. it was okay, i gave him another shot. She'll give you one if you're soul mates. Seroiusly you are only asking her on a date. I don't think she'll turn you down if she still thinks about you.
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