mavlast Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 This girl that I met online, and have talked to on the phone, is really ill. She has a double ear infection and a sore throat. As a result we won't get to go on a date that we'd planned for tomorrow. However, I'd like to do something sweet for her to let her know that I'm thinking about her. I'm already planning to take her out as soon as she gets well, but what can I do in the meantime? I thought about looking up her house and sending her a hand-written card, but the whole guy-I-know-online-knows-my-address factor might be a negative. I also don't want to get too romantic -- she likes me, but I don't want to creep her out. Ideas?
Sanman Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 (edited) Well, not knowing her address makes it difficult. Does she live alone or with family? Does she live near you? Would she tell you her address if you asked or get freaked out? My general thoughts are to go to the pharmacy and make her a get well basket (sore throat spray, throat drops, pain killers, etc) as I hate having to get up and go to the pharmacy when I am sick. Maybe throw some flowers in there for good measure. If she doesn't live near you, find a place with good chicken soup that does delivery and pay for it to be delivered by credit card. Edited August 1, 2011 by Sanman
Star Gazer Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 If you have not met her, DO NOT look up her address and send her a card. No matter how sick I was, and how interested and excited for a date I might be, if a guy I'd met on and online dating site had sent me a card in that manner, I'd be FREAKED OUT and would never end up seeing him. Just tell her you're thinking about her and hope she's feeling better.
Sanman Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 If you have not met her, DO NOT look up her address and send her a card. No matter how sick I was, and how interested and excited for a date I might be, if a guy I'd met on and online dating site had sent me a card in that manner, I'd be FREAKED OUT and would never end up seeing him. Just tell her you're thinking about her and hope she's feeling better. Didn't realize you had never met her. Agreed with SG. Either send her a sweet text or as k if you can do anything for her. Don't look her up...it somce off stalkerish.
Author mavlast Posted August 1, 2011 Author Posted August 1, 2011 I don't know her address; I'd have to look it up. Asking her would kill the surprise. However, I think that I agree with Star Gazer ... she might be sensitive to someone she met online knowing her address. I've thought about just texting her (she can't talk) and saying something like "hey girl, just wanted you to know that I'm thinking about you. Hope you feel better!". But I'd kind of like to do something more.
Star Gazer Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 I don't know her address; I'd have to look it up. Asking her would kill the surprise. However, I think that I agree with Star Gazer ... she might be sensitive to someone she met online knowing her address. I've thought about just texting her (she can't talk) and saying something like "hey girl, just wanted you to know that I'm thinking about you. Hope you feel better!". But I'd kind of like to do something more. That is more than enough for someone you've never met. I strongly urge you to resist investing in someone you've talked with through an online dating site but have never met.
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 You sound WAY too invested into someone you have never met.
Author mavlast Posted August 1, 2011 Author Posted August 1, 2011 Yeah Eternal ... I can't say that I disagree. It's just, it's been awhile since someone has really been attached to me like this girl has, and I guess I'm just responding to it. I'm trying to keep a level head, though. Much easier said than done.
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