Lunamadness Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 Dated this guy for 2months... He broke it off suddenly ,two and a half weeks ago, saying that he would regret it. Last night he texted me telling me he missed me and wished he could take it all back. Should I wait and have him show me that he wants me (all of me) and take it slow, or should I just show up on his doorstep and just act on my feelings?
2sunny Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 be cautious. make sure he makes a ton of effort to show he's actually interested in only you. if it were me - i'd need him to earn my trust to understand that he could be considered trustworthy at this point. go slow. see if he makes a ton of effort first. he may just not have anyone right now and considers you his backup gal = and that is never a good thing.
wilsonx Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 be cautious. make sure he makes a ton of effort to show he's actually interested in only you. if it were me - i'd need him to earn my trust to understand that he could be considered trustworthy at this point. go slow. see if he makes a ton of effort first. he may just not have anyone right now and considers you his backup gal = and that is never a good thing. I agree with this, it sucks when you find out you are the backup. It also hurts twice as bad the second time the breakup happens. As 2sunny says be very cautious
Author Lunamadness Posted August 1, 2011 Author Posted August 1, 2011 be cautious. make sure he makes a ton of effort to show he's actually interested in only you. if it were me - i'd need him to earn my trust to understand that he could be considered trustworthy at this point. go slow. see if he makes a ton of effort first. he may just not have anyone right now and considers you his backup gal = and that is never a good thing. And that is basicly what I told him...that we would need to take this slow, and he said he would try. Haven't heard from him all day though. So I just need to wait for him to call and such, or is it okay if I contact him first?
Author Lunamadness Posted August 1, 2011 Author Posted August 1, 2011 let him do all the work and i mean all the work I will keep you posted on how that goes. THank you ^_^
sd89 Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 Im interested to see how this turns out. Its seems already as if you handle everything well.
Author Lunamadness Posted August 2, 2011 Author Posted August 2, 2011 Update: (for the freakin third time typing this) So after almost not hearing anything for 2 days, he texts me 30 minutes before I get off work to tell me he is out drinking with a mutual friend of ours...more his than mine. I proceed to text him when I get off work, and he asks me what I am doing. I telling him, "Nothing, atm", and all he says is "No fun"....okay. So it quickly gets to the point where I tell him I thought he was gonna ask me to come out there with them, and his response is that I could, but they were almost done. Well that was an hour ago, and he posted 15 minutes ago on stupid fbook that they were still out. And he keeps texting me sexual enuendos to almost everything I say. I am beginning to think I should call BS or mindgames, because that is messed up.
Zaphod B Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 Looks like a game player all right. Don't waste anymore time with him. I kind of tend to agree with the other poster, that you were just his backup. He'll only keep you until someone better comes along.
Forever Learning Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 Update: (for the freakin third time typing this) So after almost not hearing anything for 2 days, he texts me 30 minutes before I get off work to tell me he is out drinking with a mutual friend of ours...more his than mine. I proceed to text him when I get off work, and he asks me what I am doing. I telling him, "Nothing, atm", and all he says is "No fun"....okay. So it quickly gets to the point where I tell him I thought he was gonna ask me to come out there with them, and his response is that I could, but they were almost done. Well that was an hour ago, and he posted 15 minutes ago on stupid fbook that they were still out. And he keeps texting me sexual enuendos to almost everything I say. I am beginning to think I should call BS or mindgames, because that is messed up. Yep sounds like games to me. He's not very mature is he. If he was serious about you, he wouldn't be behaving like this out at a bar drunk with buddies and sending sexy chat to you. He'd have met up with you to talk things out and let you know that YOU are his priority. Ignore him until he shapes up or move on entirely. Good luck.
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