Woggle Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 A friend of mine just told me that crazy women with issues tend to be better in bed which I don't agree with but it is a commonly held belief. The further off the deep end my ex got the worst the sex became and my wife who is very much sane is a goddess in the sack so I believe this stereotype is certainly not true. What are people's thoughts on this?
quankanne Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 I don't think I could get past the thought of a potential bunny-boiler/stalker ... I'm thinking someone who is really into you is going to be a good lover because they're willing and wanting to know what makes you sexually satisfied. AND remain sane!
IfWishesWereHorses Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 Better in bed? No! I do believe men/women tend to be attracted to crazy people. The fact that they have an "alternate reality" enhances the chase. Not everyone, Ofcourse, but I've observed this for years, as have friends. It's been the subject of many coversations among my friends.
smudge21 Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 Depends how crazy - mildly nuts and she may be up for anything and want you to call her names (which is odd in my book), whereas as totally whacko and you're only gonna' get 30 minutes during visiting times and she's hardly going to move much with those restraints keeping her in place on the bed.
Hot Chick Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 I think that "crazy" women have little self-esteem and all that they have to give to a guy is sex, so they give their all in bed to the guys to get them sucked into their world and keep them on the line. They try desperately to hang on to the guy by being a wild plaything in bed; unfortunatelly to them, the guys tire of them when they realize there is nothing else but sex and move on, and the woman is left in a lonely world of craziness until she can suck the next guy in with her bedroom appeal.
zengirl Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 Define "crazy." I've seen many men in relationships with women who had Borderline Personality Disorders, and supposedly -- they aren't the type to give details -- the sex was great early on, but so was everything else. But that's a specific type of dynamic; these were all guys with Savior Complexes (some have gotten over them; some haven't). That's like BPD relationship breeding ground. At any rate, not had sex with women, so I can't add much, but I do think "crazy" is much too broad a term. Do you mean literally mentally ill? Well, obviously BPD (which generally brings with it a high sex drive and attachment issues) is way different from depression or PTSD after a rape. Different disorders are going to impact sex lives in different ways.
EasyHeart Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 I was going to say, "It depends on the kind of crazy", but the last two posts stole my thunder. It's the LSE/BPD types (which seem more and more common, btw) that have a well-deserved reputation for being great in bed. But it's a short-term thing because if you stick around for long it becomes very apparent that it's all fake, like most everything about those women. It's just them using you to prop up their weird/twisted view of the world.
ascendotum Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 I think that "crazy" women have little self-esteem and all that they have to give to a guy is sex, so they give their all in bed to the guys to get them sucked into their world and keep them on the line. They try desperately to hang on to the guy by being a wild plaything in bed; unfortunatelly to them, the guys tire of them when they realize there is nothing else but sex and move on, and the woman is left in a lonely world of craziness until she can suck the next guy in with her bedroom appeal. I have no doubt this covers quite a few cases. I not going to say yes as in they have been the best exclusively, but for me the women with anxiety, self esteem, abuse issues have been more enthusiastic+ kinkier. (need more samples though) The best sex though was with a girl that certainly wasn't crazy. This 'crazy women better in bed' conversation has been mentioned before by some of my friends, and I think there is a tendancy there. What's your take on it woggle, from your early womanising days? The comedian Doug Stanhope does a joke on this, where he says anytime he overhears a woman mention she had past abuse, his ears prick up and he buys the woman a drink + chats her up because he says thats his ticket to some wild freaky sex.
xxoo Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 A friend of mine just told me that crazy women with issues tend to be better in bed which I don't agree with but it is a commonly held belief. The further off the deep end my ex got the worst the sex became and my wife who is very much sane is a goddess in the sack so I believe this stereotype is certainly not true. What are people's thoughts on this? A guy friend told me the same last year, when I questioned why men stay with nightmare-ish women. "Crazy in the head, crazy in bed" was his explanation. Woggle, I notice you use the word goddess to describe your wife in bed. Would these guys even appreciate a true goddess in bed? Or are they looking for another kind of "better in bed" that comes hand-in-hand with emotionally unhealthy women?
Lovelybird Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 unhealthy men go for women who are unhealthy, birds with same feather fly together. Depends on what kind of man you are talking about. some men like variety, some men like quality a male friend of mine told me he dated 80 women from all around the world, all of them were easy or wild, but none of them could satisfy his heart and he felt numb until he met his now wife who is a very traditional woman. Are all those wild women better in bed than this traditional woman? I don't know. but obviously this man loves this woman dearly and so happy with her.
Author Woggle Posted August 1, 2011 Author Posted August 1, 2011 A guy friend told me the same last year, when I questioned why men stay with nightmare-ish women. "Crazy in the head, crazy in bed" was his explanation. Woggle, I notice you use the word goddess to describe your wife in bed. Would these guys even appreciate a true goddess in bed? Or are they looking for another kind of "better in bed" that comes hand-in-hand with emotionally unhealthy women? I don't know what they are looking for but she is just as passionate and fun in the sack as any trainwreck and is even better. I agree with those who say that crazy women seem great at first and I saw that with my ex. She was never diagnosed but I would guess that she is probably BPD as well. At first I was attracted to her wild ways but as things got worse and the drug addiction got worse it all turned to crap.
Pyro Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 Interesting the certainty. How many women have you been with? and would you mind breaking that down into crazy v sane please? I haven't been with enough women to make a statement of 100% certainty, so the most certain statement I can make is that the craziest women I've personally been with have been better in bed. They are intent on diverting attention away from their disorders and self-medicating with sex, making them "wilder." They often have low or no boundaries so are into more familiar things from the start. They tend to be promiscuous and impulsive, so have more practice. The promiscuity leads to more craziness, so there is a vicious circle kind of effect. You have to pay for the hot sex with a chunk of your soul and mind, so whether it's worth it or not is another question. Just like you and everyone else on here I am basing my response based on the number of women I have been with. No ones response is more accurate than anyone elses on here.
Desensitized Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 Well, my ex-fiancee had BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and she was AMAZING in bed #1! But, I wouldn't necessarily say it's because of her disorder, but more the fact that she's slept with 30+ different guys and who knows how many times she had sex with each one of them. However, I wouldn't be with someone just for the sex - I rather keep my sanity. Not going down that road again, no way. So hard to get out of those crazy relationships...
Author Woggle Posted August 2, 2011 Author Posted August 2, 2011 I think that much of it is in people's heads. It's similar to how some women say jerks are better in bed. It's amazing when you look at the crap people will put up with because of the mistaken belief that dysfunction is more fun and interesting.
Desensitized Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 I think that much of it is in people's heads. It's similar to how some women say jerks are better in bed. It's amazing when you look at the crap people will put up with because of the mistaken belief that dysfunction is more fun and interesting. The only people that see dysfunction being "fun and interesting" are the ones that have something wrong with them themselves. A relationship of extreme highs and lows is not healthy, but people do become addicted to these types of relationships. I, for one, am guilty of this, but I am thankful to be out of that now.
sm1tten Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 The most mentally off person I've ever dated was one of the worst lovers I've ever had. Like probably the second to worst, after the guy who couldn't maintain an erection and was also rather microscopically hung. I really don't want to sit here and go through my "list" and divide them into crazy and sane but I can say that that guy stands out both because it was recent and also because he was really, really effed up.
Ruby Slippers Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 Yes... I am:lmao::bunny: I was so tempted to post this, too. lol
Emilia Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 Define 'good in bed' to start with. You would be surprised how many people don't know what good sex is.
Author Woggle Posted August 2, 2011 Author Posted August 2, 2011 Define 'good in bed' to start with. You would be surprised how many people don't know what good sex is. They are supposed to be wild and uninhibited which is partly true but there is more to great sex than that.
zengirl Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 I think that much of it is in people's heads. It's similar to how some women say jerks are better in bed. It's amazing when you look at the crap people will put up with because of the mistaken belief that dysfunction is more fun and interesting. Very true correlation. Really, anyone who thinks broken people are better in bed. . . . just wants to sleep with broken people. For whatever reason, but likely he/she is broken as well.
Feelin Frisky Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 My almost wife was indeed effing crazy. But she was great in bed. I can't say that all nuts are good because my brother is married to a crazy woman and he doesn't get any (at least from her:rolleyes:).
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