getting ex to forgive me and be friends

[lew2323]

Ok sorry if i write a novel here i just want some suggestions on what i should do or if i should even continue to try and just leave things how they are.

For the record before these moments we never really fought or screamed at one another and so how i describe my actions after we broke up don't describe our relationship. also im not looking to get back with her. just get on friendly terms with her.

Well in January my ex and i broke up after basically a two year relationship. I would say 80% of that time were great moments, 15% were mundane, and 5% were things i wish didn't happen. We broke up because things just seemed more like a great friendship instead of a relationship. I did some things that i wish i didn't in the relationship and im not proud of them what so ever ( she didn't know what i did while we were in the relationship).

Well after a week or so i wanted to be with her cuz i missed her(during that week after we broke up we would still text and talk). After a couple of failed attempts of trying to hang with her. i got mad and sent her an email. nothing in the email was too bad just told her how i felt about some stuff. but i did drop the line that i didn't want to be with her anymore if there was a slight chance of us getting back together.

after that i was good for a month not really thinking of her. well we started to get bad weather and on top of that V-day was around the corner. so i tried to make up for what i said in the email. the only thing she said was i still have love for you but that she believe what i wrote in the email is how i truly feel and said she wants to leave it at that and just be cordial. well after that i guess it safe to say i became emotionally unstable. Not just because of her not being with me or wanting to be with me but other personal issues. like not being able to pay for school anymore, constant car problems, financial problems, and a lot more other stuff. basically if it wasn't one thing it was another going wrong in my life.

with that said i took it out on her. sending her mean emails and text and sending nice ones trying to make up for it. well i couldn't take how my life was going anymore and i decided that i wanted to commit suicide. so i wrote a suicide letter to her and my mom. well i couldn't go through it and when my ex talked to me she basically said this would be the last time we talked. and again after that i said a lot of mean things, called her a couple of names, said some stuff she was real sensitive to.

well i leave for the military in the next couple of months and after all my training im going to be deployed overseas. i guess i want to make things up with her before i leave because i hope god forbids it you never know what could happen over there. i have made a couple of attempts to get in contact with her to no avail and i also gave her a bday gift. she has a new boyfriend now (reminds me of me if im going to be honest). i just want to make things right before i go because she was the best thing that had happen to me

[mr.goodguy]

hey lew..first off. I'm glad you didnt go through with the suicide..there isnt any woman on the planet worth killing yourself over.

 

Now to your situation....okay over the past while you made some errors, and you know them. Never send nasty emails to an ex...it only reflects poorly on you. It doesnt help that you tried to sweeten her up afterwards...in her eyes your emotions go up and down, very erratic. I mean to point this out only as a lesson for your next great relationship. Life is about lessons, it is what helps us with our next experience.

 

You've attempted to get in contact with her..she's sent a message that she isn't responding. It's possible she was a day from sending you a message when her phone beeps and she goes "geesh this guy again" which only resets her counter. Go NC. She is only a chapter in your life...flip it and start anew.

 

I believe you didnt finish your last sentence "she was the best thing that had happen to me...so far". There are plenty of women and adventures out there. It's up to you to explore.