laura3712 Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 My boyfriend of 2 months asked me to help out during school holiday and have his 2 girls for 2 weeks staying nights also. He doesnt get home from work til 10.30 by the way. I also work 17 hrs a week. I have 2 girls myself and i found it all quite stressful as his 9 yr old didnt like the daycare and refused to go so my 12 yr old looked after her. Also bedtimes, arguing etc. I have helped for one week but my boyfriend is upset that i have let him down and wont do the 2 weeks. Does anyone think he is being unreasonable?
Trimmer Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 Do you guys live together, and he was wanting to have them in the home that you already share, or were you hosting them at "your place", in addition to your own girls?
charasbb Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 Wow, I think that is a lot to ask. I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year and a half and he feels bed about even asking me to pick up his daughter when he can't make it. At 2 months the relationship is still quite new, I mean if you had volunteered to do it, sure, but that's a big responsibility and a big time commitment.
jthorne Posted August 4, 2011 Posted August 4, 2011 After only 2 months? Heck yeah he's being unreasonable. He's supposed to be courting you, not volunteering you for babysitter.
Stung Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 Yes, he's being unreasonable. I help out with my stepdaughter that way, because she's my family, I've lived with her for half her life, and I'm married to her dad. You've only been dating this guy two months, you and those girls barely even know each other! They probably feel uncomfortable being under your sole supervision already, mixed in with your own children, and are acting out. I do understand how difficult finding good childcare can be, and how expensive. If he can't afford a daycare center or a sitter, he should try to have his family helping out, or--what about the girls' actual mother? Is she not in the picture? If you are living together already, which honestly IMO would be way too fast esp. with kids involved, my answer would change somewhat. He would have a more reasonable expectation of support from you, as childcare assistance would seem to be what you sign up for when you move in with someone who has kids--but even then it's something you should have explicitly talked about and agreed to, he can't just assume that's how your interpretation of a step-parenting role will go.
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