bikinibeach Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 These days, you can't trust that the person you are sleeping with is not sleeping with someone else. Therefore, why bother asking for exclusivity (for health reasons) before consummating a casual dating relationship? It's something that would seem logical to me to do, but men lie. And men sleep with many women at once. Sure you could say, don't sleep with someone like that! but...how do you know? There are people MARRIED, known someone for years and find out they've been duped all along. I say stay protected, get tested and f*** it. Thoughts? PS: It's a little sad that this is what our society has come to. We have reduced EVERYTHING down to it' laziest acceptable standard.
youngskywalker Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 I've never cheated and have no intentions in doing so. I think for starters, a person needs to be more selective in who they get in a relationship with. I don't think anyone is guaranteed 100% they won't be cheated on, but simply weeding out the bad apples will heighten your odds. I can't tell you how often I see a beautiful woman (who can get any guy she wants) with a complete thug loser. I really scratch my head sometimes.
rafallus Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 I don't think it's about cheating, more like about situation, when you aren't exclusive, so other person can have sex with whoever he/she wants. And if so, then I agree with OP.
somedude81 Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 It's something that would seem logical to me to do, but men lie. And men sleep with many women at once. Women cheat too. By the time a girl breaks up with her boyfriend, she's probably already sleeping with somebody else.
Casablanca Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 Id say that cheating is the exception rather than the rule...
Star Gazer Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 Why discuss exclusivity? Because you can't get mad for someone crossing a boundary that you've never asserted in the first place.
sm1tten Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 Why discuss exclusivity? Because you can't get mad for someone crossing a boundary that you've never asserted in the first place. This. And I think part of the trick is that "casual dating relationship" means different things to different people, too. Establishing what you are doing before you do it can often be helpful. Of course, there are no guarantees either way.
Casablanca Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 Why discuss exclusivity? Because you can't get mad for someone crossing a boundary that you've never asserted in the first place. What if that is what they want? I know that is what I want and couldnt just date around for fun...I want it to go somewhere
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