animation Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 My girlfriend and I have been together for 7months now, I know it doesn't sound like a long time but we've become so dependant on each other, we are always together. We used to work together but then both changed jobs but still see each other just as much, she's either at mine or I'm at hers or we're out doing something. Anyway, 2 months ago I found out a load of horrible things, she'd been lying about a lot and it all came out and it did so much damage. It got the the point that I was never in the wrong because I would always just back at what she did and throw that in her face, which was wrong I know. This went on all the way until last night, we were at a family party and I'd had a few to drink and decided this would be a good time to bring up that I was struggling to see myself with her anymore. I love her so much and I want everything to be how it was, but the reality is it never will be. There was a lot of tears and she went home, I slept the night at the party and my phone had died, so I had no way to be in contact with her, it was the most awful feeling I've ever had and it's still persisting. She came over today and dropped a load of things off of mine along with a letter explaining she was sorry it all turned out like this. I called her and we decided to meet up and have a chat. I told her how much she meant to me, and that this is so difficult and I want to give it a chance but her mind was made up and shot me down. After a while we decided we should stay together, but see each other a lot less for now until things are resolved. In a moment of madness in the last hour I've told her I don't think it can work because we both aren't fighting for it. I'm exhausted and I just want to break down. I want this feeling to go and I want her to be happy and I want to be happy but I don't think we can be together and it's killing me. I can't think straight, I have work in the morning and I'm a mess, I don't know what to do.
ScienceGal Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 What was horrible and what was she lying about? You have to make the choice to be together and work on whatever the problems were, or cut all ties. That is the simple truth. There is no "hanging out less", there is no in between. You will have to not contact each other for a very long time. If you split, it is going to be hard, and hurt like hell. There is no way around it. But it will get easier. Try to avoid alcohol and drugs, try to exercise and sleep. Try to do anything that will get your mind off of her. It might take longer than you think, but you will start to have better moments, and then better hours, and even better days. Just follow through 100% with your decision.
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