Dblock10 Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 what is a break exactly? are there rules within the break? is it what someone says when they are indecisive? i know a lot of the time its because there is someone else. but i know this isn't the case.
EgoJoe Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 Some people say treat a break as a breakup etc. If there are not established rules then there isn't. BUT there must be definitive guidelines and you must adhere to them. If there are not, set some for yourself self so that you can have personal boundaries.
onlyafool Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 what is a break exactly? Your opportunity to go NC, move on and start bettering yourself. When someone needs a break in a relationship they are weak and you deserve better. I personally don't care how long a couple has been together, there's no good reason for a break other than to gutlessly end a relationship while stringing another person along.
Author Dblock10 Posted July 31, 2011 Author Posted July 31, 2011 exactly. they cant face the truth that it is a BREAK"UP" or dont want to say it. ok thanks. i may have to go over this with her.
just_scott Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 well if you're partner is mentioning a ''break '' to you chances are their intrestead in someone else and want to explore the possability of being with them and keeping you around as a fall back person you're either in a relationship or out , you have some issues [which all will eventually] you either deal with them or not it's black and white no grey areas .... a break basically is a nice way of saying good bye to you AND NEVER accept where ''FRIENDS'' after a ''brek'' or ''break up '' that just basically says you're second best
onlyafool Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 Forget about whether she's got her sights on someone else or not. Those thoughts serve you no purpose and will eat you alive. Have your chat with her and be firm about not being down with a break. Make sure she understands what YOU want and dont let her pretty face and the memories of the good times cloud your thinking. A break is a break up and if she doesn't see it that way, well, tough. I'm in a smarmy mood bro, sorry if that comes off harsh.
Author Dblock10 Posted August 1, 2011 Author Posted August 1, 2011 no its true. i need to speak to her. ill call her tonight. she is basically going travelling and we agreed on a break when she goes. but since then she has been totally withdrawing herself. i need to ask her. are we still together now? are we going to meet up before you go. if not. then i will ask her what this break means. and i dont think its healthy. its one way or another.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 what is a break exactly? A break is an important "window" of time which can be crucial to define and memorize for situations such as when Maury Povich turns to your husband and exclaims: "You are NOT the father!!" A "break" seemingly makes it right...
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