Lucid1 Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 Well, I did what I thought I'd be able to resist. Ex and I had a phone argument, I went home and stewed, then drove over there and banged on the door. I knew as I was driving I should turn around, but after months of frustration and anger, I just didn't. A twenty minute fight through the glass door with lots of cussing on both sides and I left. As I left I broke all her yard lights and did a donut in the front yard. I expected to see the sheriff that night or the next day but haven't so far.
TroyNJ Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 Well, I did what I thought I'd be able to resist. Ex and I had a phone argument, I went home and stewed, then drove over there and banged on the door. I knew as I was driving I should turn around, but after months of frustration and anger, I just didn't. A twenty minute fight through the glass door with lots of cussing on both sides and I left. As I left I broke all her yard lights and did a donut in the front yard. I expected to see the sheriff that night or the next day but haven't so far. Well done!!!!!!! Don't sweat it, next time she pisses you off just take a walk. I get along with EVERYONE but my stbxw. She just tweaks the **** out of me and makes me furious.
Yasuandio Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 (edited) YOU EFFED UP BIG TIME. At first I was gonna tell you to do what most guys do: deny, deny, deny. But, forget it. You left effing TREAD evidence. (I don't even know if you're a guy, but you certainly ain't lucid, that's for GD sure.) It would be great if you are a guy! Cause she really got a buzz from that reaction from you. Now you have to (a) fix it fast, (b) make all the arrangements, © call her like NOW and kiss ass, (d) pay for everything in advance, and be a nice slave boy for at least a season for the yard to grow back. Actually -- I'd have the MF'er re-sided in the A.M., like pronto dude, if your a dude. You did this because you still love the person. Go there and mend fences. Make up. Get real nice with her. I am giving you good advice. Ask anyone here. When you don't care anymore, you don't take time to show out with such drastic and self-destructive behaviors. What you are really saying is "I'll go to jail for you, watch me!". Guys make up, but still fix all the stuff. If your a dudette, I'd bribe a landscaping company to work with flood lights NOW. Then, buy a bunch of watering sprayeds, or better still, have underground watering system installed free of charge to pay for YOUR loss of control and terrorism. And -- dude, or dudette, it ain't no less that. That is the crime you commited. Especially if you are a dude. If my husband terrorized me like that, I would first call 911. Next, a restaining order - with photographs that would for sure put the perk in jail. Next, I would arm myself with everything possible, along with the dogs and alarm. That behavior would scare me out of my mind dude or dudette. Count yourself lucky. Get emergency repair people out there tomorrow AM. Offer your appologies verbally over the phone, and explain the landscaping and new door that's being installed at her convenience. Edited August 1, 2011 by Yasuandio
Yasuandio Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 (edited) Error. Error. Edited August 1, 2011 by Yasuandio
KME39 Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 Next time when she pushes the buttons on the phone and you want to go over and scream. Take a walk and cool down. You could very well end up with a exparte or something. It is much easier to be the bigger person and walk away. When I move out and if my s2bxh shows up on my door screaming and carrying on at me. I will call 911 so quick his head would spin.
andyg99 Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 I remember a counselor telling me that in the initial days/weeks of a break up especially when cheating is involved there are moments when we can be clinically insane... we need to avoid contact at all costs in the beginning, if there are kids involved it's a good idea sometimes to have a third party drop-off/pickup point in the first few weeks when the tension and emotions are high... the yelling and screaming and donuts on the lawn make for funny scenes in a movie but in real life those things can get out of hand and jail-time and serious injuries can be the result... we can avoid these things by venting to good friends and family. When I was in my early stages of a divorce many years ago I had a co-worker over-hear a phone argument I had with my soon to be ex. I told her I was going to come over and kick the OM's ass. MY co-worker took me out and made sure I was over it... had he not intervened I'd like to say that my good sense would have won over but we never know... Hang in there OP....
itllgetbetter Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 That was a big mistake. According to my dad, "once you lose your temper, you lose the argument". Under no circumstances should you do anything like that again. Possible game plan for the future: next time you're really angry, go for a brisk walk, lift weights, etc. Good luck.
hopesndreams Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 Well, I did what I thought I'd be able to resist. Ex and I had a phone argument, I went home and stewed, then drove over there and banged on the door. I knew as I was driving I should turn around, but after months of frustration and anger, I just didn't. A twenty minute fight through the glass door with lots of cussing on both sides and I left. As I left I broke all her yard lights and did a donut in the front yard. I expected to see the sheriff that night or the next day but haven't so far. What??!! A donut??!! Are you 12? Broke her lights??? Come on!! Get real!!! Grow up!! I know it hurts but behaving like an ignoramus doesn't do YOU any good! If you two ever get back together? You will both need professional help or both of you get on your knees and pray to God to set you both right.
Author Lucid1 Posted August 2, 2011 Author Posted August 2, 2011 Yep, I'm a guy, what else, and nope, I wasn't lucid. No, I'm not 12, but I was acting like it. I think I posted that because this whole thing is insane. What's one more insane act? Our divorce was like a nuclear bomb going off in our lives and it'll be years before the shock waves diminish to an inperceptible ripple. To me that is insane. That was the one and only time I let my anger out, and I can tell you, holding my anger in all this time has been one of the hardest parts of all this. From what I'm reading on the forum I'm not the only one struggling with this kind of anger and frustration, so I posted my explosion. One of my best friends made me swear I'd never even go over there again, and I don't need to swear to that as I have no intention of EVER going near there again. Yep, I was lucky there doesn't seem to be any repercussions. Although she owes me half of our tax refund and I bet I never see it now. What the heck, it was worth that.
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