calvinist Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 Hi folks about a week ago i posted my first thread on here following a split.... I met a girl about 6 months ago and we seemed to hit it off. We are the same age and have similar interests and had our fair share of failed relationships. We were happy whether it was going for meal or cinema or just a walk down the road. We both had insecurities and spoke about it and I constantly reassured her about how I felt towards her. I learned from mistakes I had made in previous relationships to make this one work, however about 1 month ago I noticed she started to seem disinterested and distant. She stopped responding to texts and made excuses not to see me. I spoke with her about it and she said her job and outside interests [she volunteers for charity radio] had squeezed her time. She texted me the other day to end our relationship, saying I was a great guy and too good for her but she felt it wasnt going to work. After several messages she ended the relationship and we have had no contact since. Im sure its just girlie code for ''I've lost interest in you/no longer fancy you'' or ''I've met someone else but cant tell you''........ anyway following our split she deleted me from facebook and there has been no contact from me or her. i know regardless of how low,lonely or drunk i get i will not contact her what hurts is i spoke to a mutual friend who says my ex spent about a day feeling low but has already got on with her life eg going out with friends etc what hurts is that i realise she will probably never contact me and has got over me in the space of a day while i still mourn the relationship i miss her terribly and i will never see her again
Booyah171 Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 It really bothers me that people can't be honest with each other and say "we should see other people" instead of "you are too good for me". Time heals all wounds. There are many shoulders to lean on here.
wreckedhero Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 I feel your pain mate. It's better that she won't get in contact with you. It might not feel that way now pal but in the long run it's better. My gf and I ended it 3 months ago and I want her back. We have been in contact ever since then which means that i've been hanging on her every word, trying to work out what she want's and it's not healthy. Ive come to the realisation that if she wanted me she would tell me, not just text me saying hi. All this after I asked her to come out with me for a meal and all she can say is hi 5 days later. So I've gone no contact. At least you can start to heal now and not wait three months like me. It's going to take me ages now to get over her.
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