sbradford2 Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 My kids father has left once again. And since he's been gone he does not answer my phone calls or have anything to do with us. And whenever he did answer the phone he finds every excuse to get off. I told him last week that I needed him to keep the kids while I work this weekend but I decided to take them to their grandparents house instead because although I do want him to have a relationship with his kids regardless of what we are going through I just don't want to deal with him right now. He has been calling me all morning long from a "restricted" number and I don't know what that is all about. I know that he is probably with someone else because whenever we break up he does not waste time at all finding another woman. I want to get over him and just get on with my life. I will not keep the kids from him but usually he has nothing to do with them if we are not together anyways. I want him to hurt like I do and feel the pain that I feel right now. But everytime we go through this I am the one that ends up heart broken. I know my children deserve better. He's been in and out of their lives since they were children. Whenever the things get tuff get starts cheating and leaves so I know that it is time to end this once and for all. But I am unsure of where to start. How do I move on with my life and not feel so alone.
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 I know my children deserve better. Get on the horn with your local child support agency and see that the children are covered, and request counseling through your local Social Services to get you through this process. As for feeling lonely, I think with time away from him you'll gain some much needed clarity and see that you didn't lose him: you were freed from him. Distance yourself, focus on your children and start building a life without him - your children will not benefit from having a mother pining for a father who clearly doesn't care about them or their mother. Don't rely on him to be a Daddy. He fathered those children but he is no Daddy from what you posted. I know you want them to have Daddy in their lives, but he wasn't really there to begin with - inconsistent parenting is no better than absent parenting. In fact, it is probably worse. Time to let go and rebuild without him.
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