Lynskydoodles Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 I got asked out by a guy who I secretly like. He said that we should catch a movie and have dinner or check out a nearby theater since these are things I like doing while I'm in the city. He said to tell him when I'm free. I confirmed that it's a great idea. A few days (3) passed, I texted him that I'm kindda free on this certain date (a weekend) and if he has anything going, and if not, we should go out for movies 'n supper. I got his response after a few hours, and he said that he has to check his schedule first and will let me know later. It doesn't sound happy. It's weird but it appears I'm being ditched I mean in the first place, he asked me out...It's been a day already and now I'm thinking.. I suppose he ain't interested at all. What do you think guys? Should I follow up or let it rest?
leftfordead2 Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 Let it rest, if not, you'll be coming off as desperate. Anyway, he already said he will check and let you know later, so if he is interested, he'll let you know, you don't have to remind him.
DuskCrush Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 Definitely dont follow up. Just wait for him to respond...
sm1tten Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 Leave it alone. What does this mean, though? I texted him that I'm kindda free on this certain date How can you be kind of free? Maybe he's confused?
green_tea Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 I disagree - I say follow up - either the day before or on the day. I had a similar experience recently - guy asked me out, I said yes, and he was supposed to text me with details, he never did, but I asked him on the day - and phrased it in a way such that he was free to decline. He was very quick to respond that he still wanted to meet me, and gave a time and place. If he's asked you, he is definitely interested.
Author Lynskydoodles Posted July 31, 2011 Author Posted July 31, 2011 Thank you guys for the valuable feedback. I appreciate your different points of view. The thing is, I live far from the city and it so happens I'm going to the city for some business. The guy happen to find out that I'll be staying for awhile and hence he invited me for dinner and all the shebang, but no date since I didn't mention an exact move date to the city. When I finally know when I'm about to leave, I texted, words to this effect ''do you have something going on the (mm/day(s), let's go catch a movie!" Btw, this is not the first time I had shared a meal w/ him Prior, I had lunch w/ the bloke. So he texted, that he'd have to check first and let me know aight! If I think about it, since he is an engineer who's always doing projects, i suppose a lil patience is necessary...plus i shouldn't be all angry 'cause in the 1st place i am not his gf. So, I guess, it won't hurt to sortta follow up in a non-intrusive way...If so, how should I go about it?
Author Lynskydoodles Posted July 31, 2011 Author Posted July 31, 2011 Oh I'm sorry, I accurately told him the exact dates that I'm not busy. "Free" here means free from work.
green_tea Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 So, I guess, it won't hurt to sortta follow up in a non-intrusive way...If so, how should I go about it? No it definitely will not hurt to do that. I don't understand why people play so many games and rules. You want to know something, you just ask politely. Just word it in such a way that if he really has changed his mind, it gives him an out. I was thinking the same as you - thought the guy had changed his mind. Just say something like "so I didn't hear back from you about the movies - are you still up for it, if not no worries.."
Author Lynskydoodles Posted August 1, 2011 Author Posted August 1, 2011 (edited) Hi GreenTea thanks for the help...the bloke has just bailed out from it and said he had something up for those days. he asked for raincheck and apologized for being a disappointment. he said he didn't fixed his schedule so well and should've known earlier. however, he's not set another date, or even just say coffee/ lunch to make up for it. having dated awhile, i could sense that he wasn't thinking when he first asked me out and perhaps realized he wasn't really up to it. i just told him that "i see, and I am not disappointed at all. Cheers". He then retorted hoping that i wasn't just saying that coz he was just a scatter brain dumping stuff in his schedule --- my last reply: I let out a chuckle and said "i can't be disappointed coz of that I have amnesia too and he just keep chill coz we're coo"l. What I said is a double meaning statement - if it were real then he'd take it sincerely, if it were all made up it was meant to ridicule. (In my silent mind, I think it's a blessing in disguise not to date pussies who cannot organize their schedules). I like people who know what they want, don't put people down because they can't make up their minds, and cannot organize. It just felt irresponsible and I kindda got turned off. Edited August 1, 2011 by Lynskydoodles
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