Just desserts?

[carson2002]

Hi, anyone got any just desserts stories? I realise that as a dumpee i'll probably never know if my ex gets hers and if she ever does i'll hopefully have moved on and it won't matter one way or the other. I do believe in what goes around comes around but i'm still in the early stages of seperation and need cheering up with the possibility that it could happen! - Not that i'm planning to gloat but a warm feeling of satisfaction would be nice LOL.

[Lucid1]

Hey Carson2002,

 

Know what you mean. But after awhile, as you process all this, you won't care if she falls off a cliff. And that, as hard as it is to get past, is where many of us need to be in order to get on with our own lives.

 

My first wife of many years ago went on to have a sad dysfunctional life, not because of our divorce but because that's who she was, and after years passed I just felt a bit sorry for her as I would anyone in unfortunate circumstances.

 

 

But yes, you can bet, she will have regrets, even if she never voices them. We all ask "what if" at one point or another.

[itllgetbetter]

a) I have an aunt who's been a psychiatrist for over 30 years. I was having dinner with her a few weeks back and she said that she's currently treating four women who left their H's for OM. One wanted to go back to H within about 6-8 mths but H had moved on. My aunt commented that in all her years of experience, she's never seen the dumper ultimately be happier than s/he was with their former spouse.

 

b) I know a man who left his wife and 2 kids for OW. He had to pay the BS around 80K in spousal support for over 15 years (he was bitter about that for years - don't know how much child support was). He commented to me sometime back that MC told him that in less than 5 yrs time after he's been with OW, it'll be the same sort of issues he'll have to deal with. At the time, he was "sure" his new relationship would be different. A few years later, he realized MC was correct.