tapoutloco Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 Ive been with my gf for 3 years. As with any other relationship we've had ups and downs and we love and care for each other very much. There is a 2 year gap between us and Im in my 2nd year of college while she is getting ready to graduate this year. Since the summer began all she wants to do is hangout with her friends. WE used to see each other almost everyday. It kinda bothers me because ive never gotten an invite to hangout with her and her friends. Ive met them and theyre nice but weve never actually chilled together. When i ask her why i cant go she says because it makes her feel awkard and i honestly dont know where she gets that feeling from. Im laid back, funny, friendly and i get along good with anyone new i meet. So i just dont understand how that is. Her group of friends mainly consists of girls but other girls bring around theyre bf or guy friend but mine wont. She always mentions that her friends always tell her to bring me but she still doesnt. I do not get it one bit. Is there something that im not seeing here. Shes loyal and honest about everything so another guy is out of the question. I also bring her around my friends and we have a great time. Can someone give me some advice?
neowulf Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 Can someone give me some advice? I have a couple of suggestions; 1. Stop smothering her. Yes, she has friends. Where are your buddies? What are *you* doing while she's off with her friends? Sitting at home wondering why you don't get invited? What's going on in your life? 2. Focus on building a life of your own. Early on, it's natural for couples to want to spend every waking minute together, yet as the relationship grows, the people in it continue to need some space. I don't mean to come across as harsh, but you're sounding *seriously* needy right now. Being "needy" is a HUGE turn off for women. Hell, for people in general. The best advice I can give you is stop focusing on why your friend isn't spending as much time with you and focus on building your own interests/hobbies/friends outside the relationship.
Author tapoutloco Posted July 30, 2011 Author Posted July 30, 2011 yeah i totally get you. Ive never been a needy or way clingy type either but ive been acting like it for the past weeks. Better break off the bad habit before it leads to the downfall
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