verhrzn Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 I met a guy a few weeks ago. We've hung out three or four times, watching movies, taking walks, and playing video games. Since the first time we hung out, I hear from him pretty much every day... Either him sending a text or him linking something on my wall. (I absolutely never send him a text except in response so I can avoid bothering him or seeming needy.) We've also made out a few times, and he is highly complimentary about my looks. He also tells me what a great time he has whenever we hang out, how compatible we are, and is always commenting on "the next time we hang out we should do x, y and z." However, he's told me that for reasons he's not comfortable talking about, due to some incident that happened a few months ago, he can't handle a romantic relationship right now. Additionally, he has TONS of friends. Many, many of them attractive, single girls. I'd really like to date him (not seriously/exclusively yet, I need to know him a little better for that) but after he said that I figured the situation was hopeless. After all, if he was interested he'd want to date, and what are the chances he'd be interested in me when he has all of these other girls to choose from? So my question is, do you guys think it's hopeless as well? Should I just lose his number? Or should I hold out and see for a little bit longer?
LynnT Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 He's already said he's not interested in a romantic relationship. Be his friend if you want but don't waste your time waiting on him.
thehead Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 I don't get it. You're not sure you want a relationship with him. He's not wanting one right now either. So why not just hang out and see what happens?
DuskCrush Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 Hmmm...I think you should take a little space from the situation. Just dont hang out with him for a while ....find other interests and other people...Then see how you feel about him. It definitely sounds like he wants a no-strings-attached relationship. I dont think you want that...you wouldnt be making this post if you did. Still, if you set some boundaries for yourself and detach he might decide your worth it...or not. In any case, youll be too busy living your life. Dont make it so black and white. Good luck.
somedude81 Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 LOL, if your situation is hopeless; I should be performing seppuku based on how mine is going. As for your thing, the balls in your court. I just suggest not having sex without making it exclusive first.
Cee Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 Since he has a lot of attractive single friends, it sounds like that's all he wants - the attention of lots of women. Take him at his word. He's not available for dating, but maybe some messing around once in awhile.
Yookie Posted July 31, 2011 Posted July 31, 2011 I met a guy a few weeks ago. We've hung out three or four times, watching movies, taking walks, and playing video games. Since the first time we hung out, I hear from him pretty much every day... Either him sending a text or him linking something on my wall. (I absolutely never send him a text except in response so I can avoid bothering him or seeming needy.) We've also made out a few times, and he is highly complimentary about my looks. He also tells me what a great time he has whenever we hang out, how compatible we are, and is always commenting on "the next time we hang out we should do x, y and z." However, he's told me that for reasons he's not comfortable talking about, due to some incident that happened a few months ago, he can't handle a romantic relationship right now. Additionally, he has TONS of friends. Many, many of them attractive, single girls. I'd really like to date him (not seriously/exclusively yet, I need to know him a little better for that) but after he said that I figured the situation was hopeless. After all, if he was interested he'd want to date, and what are the chances he'd be interested in me when he has all of these other girls to choose from? So my question is, do you guys think it's hopeless as well? Should I just lose his number? Or should I hold out and see for a little bit longer? Typical player move. Of course he can't talk about it because it's complete bull sh*t. Don't get caught up in that nonsense. He wants to add you to his stable of good-looking, available females that he doesn't have to commit to but can make out with whenever he wants. Run away fast!
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