lclc49 Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 so about a yr. ago i noticed this woman at a business i frequent (harley shop). i have not been in any type of relationship for 11 yrs., very guarded. tend to stay allof from women. i have had some rendevous walk in the park, meet for coffee, etc. but i would find a way to put out i wasn't ready. basically very tired of being alone and being lonely, but content with the simpleness of my life. this woman is the front desk receptionist at this shop. she is very sociable, i just did not think i could or she would be interested in me. a few months ago i got up the courage to approach her and start chatting with her. we continued to chat and got to talking a little more in depth each time we saw each other. about weeks ago there was an event at the shop, we sat together and spent most of the day together, talking and getting to know some things about each other. the next day we met for coffee and she said she really enjoyed it. a couple of days later she came to my house, i did not know what to expect, she ended up staying the night. it all seemed so natural how we clicked, she said so, she said how she had me on her mind all the time, we seemed to be just clicking, a few days later we were talking about these feelings. she said how she had been in an abusive relationship a while ago, she said how she had been dating someone else and it ended and now he was basically stalking her. a week later she asked me to meet her and some of her friends i got there and she was showing me off, she was affectionatem we went to her house that night and she got real uncomfortable, was close, was stand offish, could sleep, etc. the next night she came to my house, and where she had said she was acle to rest there she did not that night. she left the next morning saying it wasn't my fault she never really rested anywhere. later that evening i get the message she wasn't ready for a relationship. i felt like crap, grumpy and sad all day the next day, then the afternoon of the next day she calls and when asked what was going on she said she had been a jerk and didn't want to look back and find out she left a good man. we talk, then a week later i get the message she cannot give me what i am seeking. i had told her a day or so before that i was finding myself falling love with her, she said how afraid she was, etc. now i am hurting, just like i had been in this relationship for a long time. i feel like a jerk, being the relationship was such a short duration, i know she is frightened and she has said she runs when she gets that way, but pain is still there. i feel like an idiot, i have let her enter deeply in to my heart, i was certatin she was starting to feel the same thing, i saw her yesterday at the shop and she smiles, gives me a hug, then when i tell her how i did not like what had happened, she said it would only be a minute and things would get better. i feel like a total idiot.
Tayla Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 Aside from the difficulty of reading the post I shall await your question or concern. All I gained is you took a risk and the person who you are enamored with isn't the sharpest tool in the shed in dealing with relationships. For what its worth. welcome newcomer and I hope you find the solutions for which you seek.
Centaurus Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Yeah, that was a difficult read, my condolences to the poster. Well, I should say that from reading between the grey lines hidden in the story that your dream woman is something purely of physical attraction, and perhaps little in the depth department? Honestly, would you really want to be in a relationship with a woman that works in a Harley shop and has abusive relationships? Her story is far more tragic, I guarantee it, thus run for your life.
Shion Posted September 13, 2011 Posted September 13, 2011 Yes, some women are one minute all over you and the next will say that they don't want a relationship. My advice is to stay aloof and if she wants you she'll come to you.
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