nyer Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 (edited) Hi, I'm new here, so hello. I recently got dumped by this girl that I really love. We started out as friends but then I had to leave NY to do an internship in Palo Alto so we were apart for that time, but we still kept in contact, chatting everyday, saying we miss each other until we finally got together one day. When I came back, I acted like a jerk and I didn't give her the attention that she needed. Now this resulted in some spats, no shouting matches but still now I realise that I hurt her, by not being there to comfort her when she had problems and by not treating her like a boyfriend should. I guess this gave rise to doubts in her head as to whether we were right for each other and after a break, where I still was aggressive and pushed her for an answer as to our relationship status, it resulted in her ending things. It's been a short while, and I have managed to see the matter in a new light, and realised what an idiot I was mainly because for the first time since I arrived in NY, I had some time to myself to think things through. I have apologised to her and she accepted it but we've been mostly on limited contact since. I tried to talk to her once, when I couldn't take the silence, she was polite and quick but was obviously avoiding a long conversation. Now I love this girl more than anything in the world, and I say this with conviction despite the way I treated her. I also know that she truly loved me, and tried to work on our relationship but I was too aloof to notice. To summarise the situation now, it just seems like she decided to break-up because she was afraid that I wouldn't change, and staying together would prolong an unavoidable future breakup. We have some common friends and she seems to be desperately trying to occupy herself by going out etc. to keep her mind off things. I hope she will agree to see me soon because I want to prove to her that I am the same guy she fell in love with, and I have learned my lesson and changed. I am very afraid though, that she has made up her mind (she is rather hard-headed) and will say no, even if maybe her heart is telling her otherwise. Or she will refuse to meet me because she thinks that I will try to win her back and she will stay away because she doesn't want to hurt my feelings. As bleak as it may look, I have never been as sure about something in my life as I am sure about my love for this girl, and I know that she truly loved me. I just hope that she will let me back in and show her that I have changed and that it's not too late. Is it? Is it too late? I just need some help. Edited July 29, 2011 by nyer
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