Ready2live4today Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 My question is would you date someone with Mild Bi-Polar 2?
vsmini Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 If it was being managed with a consistent regimen of medication and psych visits then yes. If not - no. I would in no way date someone who was bipolar (mild or otherwise) that was not managing that condition.
DutchValhallaViking Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 (edited) If it was being managed with a consistent regimen of medication and psych visits then yes. If not - no. I would in no way date someone who was bipolar (mild or otherwise) that was not managing that condition. Agreed, same here. Having dated a girl with mental issues for 3 years, i can safely say i feel very comfy being in a relationship with a girl like that as long as work is being done to lessen the impact the illness has on the relationship. As long as that's the case, i'm able to stay patient and understanding / forgiving. Edited July 29, 2011 by DutchValhallaViking
daphne Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 No. I need someone stable and consistent in my life. And my social experience with bipolars has been anything but. I try to avoid them completely. I prefer peaceful living.
Cee Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 My question is would you date someone with Mild Bi-Polar 2? Bipolar is trendy like ADHD used to be so it's over diagnosed. I would hazard to say that mild Bipolar II is not a real diagnosis. But do take the medication if it works. A segment of successful people are bipolar II because their hypomania makes them highly productive. I have Bipolar I in all of its psychotic mania glory. I have a better love life than most because the medication handles my emotional instability, whereas normal people have to deal with their emotional drama on their own.
rafallus Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 If known beforehand or strongly suspected by behaviors - no. Then again, plenty of people don't really have BPD, but use it as an excuse to act like dickheads and get away with it, because "Hey! It's not my fault! I have a BPD, OK?!"
zengirl Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 I agree with Cee that mild Bipolar II seems to be a fad these days. I read an article (it was like in a silly woman's/fashion type magazine, not like Psychology Today or anything) where a woman was sharing her experience with it, and her "wild extremes" were sitting home watching reality TV, not calling friends back regularly (depressed) and going out shoe shopping/going clubbing with her friends. I found it odd; her mood bumps sounded pretty normal to me. Everyone needs to manage their moods to some degree. And I'd date someone with Bipolar I anyway. . . one of my best friends is fairly severely bipolar, but she's managed well with medication and therapy and been in a healthy place for years. I will not hold anyone's natural brain chemistry against them if they have learned how to manage it and seek the proper help and medication. I wouldn't date anyone, regardless of brain chemistry, who wasn't willing to learn to manage their ****.
thatone Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 my nephew's wife was diagnosed bi polar and put on some sort of medication before they were married. i tend to think that her pregnancy made it worse. since then she has been perfectly normal, in fact she's pretty smart for her young age and if i were in his shoes i'd consider her a pretty good catch.
blueskyday Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 I second the idea that yes, but only if the person was actively aware of it and managing it, not using it as an excuse to act like a jerk, or threaten my emotional or physical safety. It goes to the core idea of being with someone who is responsible for taking care of their s***, as someone else already put it so well!
HeartOnSleeve Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 I dated a guy for a year and half who was bipolar and I will defiantly not be going down that path again personally. His was managed, but it was a huge strain. Although when he was doing well it was a wonderful relationship and when it was bad it was really bad. Managed or not there will always be slip ups and days of missed meds. I think if you educate yourself and are willing to take it on more power to you and if you are the one with the disorder, be open and honest with your partner and help them understand you and how the disorder affects you. Example: what happens if you miss your meds, your history or highs and lows, and most of all what your partner can do to support you and help see you through the rough times. People with BP and other mental illness are people too and we all deserve to be loved.
phineas Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 I hate you never post here again....................I miss the way you post.
Dust Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 Crazy girls can be really sexy so yes. Can’t guarantee it would work out or I’d survive though.
phineas Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 Crazy girls can be really sexy so yes. Can’t guarantee it would work out or I’d survive though. I agree, but at this point in my life I don't want a crazy chick knowing where I live since I now have my kids a few nights a week.
Audrina Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 It depends on the person. My last roommate was bipolar, and no, I could have never dated him. His mood swings were too extreme and he couldn't control his anger when he got mad. He refused to do anything for himself when he was feeling depressed and no matter what, completely refused any help, medical or therapeutic. That being said, I am not disorder free myself, I have PTSD, but I have worked very hard at managing the symptoms and can say that I'm so much better now than I used to be. I am upfront and honest about this disorder and how it affects me with people I date and I've found that everyone has been embracing and patient with me. I believe this is because I am clear about what's going on with me, I am in therapy and have been for many years, and like I said, I talk about it so my partner is aware of what I'm going through. The funny thing is, before we started dating my boyfriend said he would never date someone who had a mental disorder like that, but he is dating me and is more embracing and patient with me than I ever wished anyone could be. He tells me I'm not nearly as crazy as I think or make myself out to be. Just something to think about.
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