jdubinva Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 I went on a date tonight and we got along well and all. There were no huge sparks but I was thinking I'd like to see her again. The thing that bothers me is I paid for the dinner as i was planning to but she never once said anything in the way of a thank you, let alone the pseudo offer to pay half. She seemed to be into it and we had a kiss at her car but never a thank you. Forget about sex for dinner but is a thank you too much too ask? Am i weird in thinking that's rude? JW
Sprig Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 Nope, I wouldn't think so. That would turn me off also. If you are going to be the gentleman, you should expect to date a lady. Give her another chance just in case she was all nerves and if the same thing happens again, make the call then.
Winterly Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 Nope, I wouldn't think so. That would turn me off also. If you are going to be the gentleman, you should expect to date a lady. Give her another chance just in case she was all nerves and if the same thing happens again, make the call then. I agree with what you said. in the date i often was a little nerves...
Author jdubinva Posted July 29, 2011 Author Posted July 29, 2011 She's a realtor so not a shy bird. I think it was just plain rude. If she's selfish now I can't imagine what she would be like later.
thatone Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 (edited) see my point in the other thread about the reason for paying for things. you're not buying her, you're buying information. the better women will say thanks for the dinner, thanks when you open doors and such, and generally be polite. even if they're not attracted to you and don't want to continue past the second date, that doesn't mean they are justified in being unappreciative of your efforts. a simple response to your request for a second date of "thanks for the dinner but i don't think we have much in common, best of luck in finding someone else" is how they should be at that point, if that is the case. these are the roles, and they are pretty rigid on the first few dates. men approach, initiate, and pay for the dates. women demonstrate that they appreciate the nice gestures by saying thanks when you do those things. it suggests entitlement/selfishness or lack of interest on her part, imo. Edited July 29, 2011 by thatone
Author jdubinva Posted July 29, 2011 Author Posted July 29, 2011 I agree, there are things such as common courtesies. And even if she does want to blow me off you still follow them if you have any manners. Btw, she did say let's talk tomorrow after the kiss.. I'm thinking of ending communication now though - she seems self-absorbed. I was just trying to get to know her and didn't speed things along. Damn dating!
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