Nexus One Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 They always think I'm strange for having a thing for spiders. Have you considered moving to Australia?
SillyS Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 We are making lists on here too, I like this site so much already! 1. Likes women 2. Likes himself 3. Funny, but not funnier than me 4. Takes care of his health 5. Has his own friends, his own interests 6. Positive outlook on life 7. Appreciates his family I have many issues, what can I say
Rinas Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 Have you considered moving to Australia? Those look seriously awesome. Time to move!
plowguy1 Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 Thats not what the shoulder is for. sometimes (rarely) if the entrance ramp is poorly designed you DO have to stop. that is why you will see a yield sign Yield means sometimes you have to stop
sm1tten Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 creativity-I tend to be more attracted to artists -humor -intelligence -atheists -accepting, non judgmental liberals -honesty -respect/politeness -openness/communication -laid back, easy going guys -confidence -dominant men -Playfulness/flirtation -Outgoing, type A personalities -sarcasm/wittiness -Direct and to the point in communicating Finally, it's time for the shallow and frivolous things I like in a man: As far as physical attraction is concerned, I'm usually attracted to tall, broad men. Think lumberjack. I like guys who do physical labor. I love having big rough hands on my soft smooth skin. Body hair turns me on, it's a sensation thing. I'm crazy about broad hairy chests. I also like facial hair. The things that my boyfriend didn't have that are on this list are broadness (he is a narrow thing), and he doesn't do physical labor. And this description (the top part, not the physical) fits pretty many of the men I know, so it's not like this is some unicorn frolicking in the magical woods at the border between reality and effing Narnia. I didn't look for someone who was "perfect" for me - he found me, and he's not perfect... we just fit well. In fact, the only things from this list that were actual requirements - meaning you would not get a date without this - are atheism, humor, and intelligence. Pretty much everything else falls from those last two anyway. To go back on topic, the most ridiculous criteria I've ever seen came from a man's profile on Match.com. He was in his late 40s, looking like his late 60s, and he wanted an "ebony coed between 18-25 who was willing to move to Kenya with [him] and start a family." I just found that to be a bit much.
Professor X Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 I saw a chick that wrote: "If you don't have Facebook don't email me!" And, another one wrote something like "If you like Metallica, don't email me" - or something like that.
iris219 Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 You see, some of these women have all these lists, right......but they probably meet a guy, find something that's not on the list about it...... ...they probably ARE attracted to the guy....but here's the problem......they think they can do BETTER. Are you suggesting that there are women who meet a man they really like, but because said man doesn’t fit every one of her criteria, she moves on? I’ve never heard of this. Most women don't have lists in RL (aside from basic necessities like kindness, etc). If I like someone, I like them. He will have different qualities than the guy before him. If I ever thought, eh, I can do better it’s because a). I don’t really like the guy or b). I really can do better because the guy is a total loser (i.e., unemployed alcoholic). You guys need to come to my town. I have no idea what you’re talking about when you say women are picky. The women here date significantly lower. The norm is smart, attractive, fit, professional women with out of shape, sloppy, alcoholics. My mom and I went to lunch the other day and she commented on how nice this young couple looked together (they were equally attractive). She said, “Wow. You never see that around here.” And you don’t. You see cavemen with attractive women. The guys here are jerks too (especially the ones who happen to be somewhat attractive). I'm generalizing, I know, but I see these things so often. I went on a date recently with a guy who insulted my neighborhood and my dog, before the date even started. He had nothing to talk about and I carried the entire conversation. He finally started talking about his therapy and that’s what we talked about for the rest of the evening—he said he will be in therapy forever. It’s like his hobby or something. He had the nerve to tell me how picky he is. He said if he doesn’t like the way a girl walks or doesn’t like how she chews, he’s out of there. He said she needs to be perfect because he’s not settling.
thatone Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 The guys here are jerks too (especially the ones who happen to be somewhat attractive). I'm generalizing, I know, but I see these things so often. I went on a date recently with a guy who insulted my neighborhood and my dog, before the date even started. He had nothing to talk about and I carried the entire conversation. He finally started talking about his therapy and that’s what we talked about for the rest of the evening—he said he will be in therapy forever. It’s like his hobby or something. He had the nerve to tell me how picky he is. He said if he doesn’t like the way a girl walks or doesn’t like how she chews, he’s out of there. He said she needs to be perfect because he’s not settling. you set up a date with one of the 20 something year old regulars on loveshack?
zengirl Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 She PREFERS (not requires) other things. I have known women to wind up with great guys that never met some of their preferences, and they were actually happy with the guy. They eventually wise up and become realistic. You see, some of these women have all these lists, right......but they probably meet a guy, find something that's not on the list about it...... ...they probably ARE attracted to the guy....but here's the problem......they think they can do BETTER. Just Google "The Husband Store" and you'll know what I mean. VERY accurate analogy of representation of a woman making her mate selection. Eh, women write lists too often, that's for sure, but the thing is they rarely actually follow their lists. I cannot tell you how many women I know will say, "I like tall guys" and then start dating a shorter guy or "I like blondes," and poof the next boyfriend is brunette. Except for the biggies that everyone wants (smart, kind, attractive, etc), regardless of gender, most of the stuff on the list is just there for purposes of listing something. The exception being things we've learned from our exBFs to never date, but those are usually just compatibility issues----and heck, plenty of women ignore that too when caught up in the moment. I've never met a woman over the age of 20 or so who was going out with a guy she liked and dropped him because she thought she could do "better" --- in fact, I think that's contrary to the way women think in relationships. They usually go all in (thus the Slot Machine Effect) when they should be wondering if the relationship really works for them, and then get surprised later with an ending they could've seen coming. Most women just want to "feel a connection" and many cannot even explain what kind of guy they actually want. Of course, that's true of most men too. I suppose the difference is men don't make the lists, but women are socialized to think it's important to show they are prioritizing relationships and I think the lists are kind of a, "See! I'm looking! I want a relationship!" thing that emerges from this socialization. At any rate, the lists are useless to everyone involved. I wouldn't put much stock in them.
zengirl Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 do you get out much? it happens all the freaking time. it's happened to me and it sucks. How do you know it happened to you? My whole point was the list thing is usually an excuse. Likely, what happened to you was she wasn't feeling it. Women are highly instinctual creatures in dating, which makes these lists fairly irrelevant when it actually comes down to it. Hence the term "Good on paper."
Queen Zenobia Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 A woman I grew up with wants to get married (as in immediately). Her list of must haves, which she will not compromise on: -has to make more money than her (she makes 65k a year) -has to be highly educated (at least a Masters degree) -has to be around her age (22-24) -has to not want to move out of the area ever She's by far a rarity among the people that I know, but it does go to show that there are some people out there with some rather stringent requirements.
Wolf18 Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 Are you suggesting that there are women who meet a man they really like, but because said man doesn’t fit every one of her criteria, she moves on? I’ve never heard of this. Most women don't have lists in RL (aside from basic necessities like kindness, etc). If I like someone, I like them. He will have different qualities than the guy before him. If I ever thought, eh, I can do better it’s because a). I don’t really like the guy or b). I really can do better because the guy is a total loser (i.e., unemployed alcoholic). You guys need to come to my town. I have no idea what you’re talking about when you say women are picky. The women here date significantly lower. The norm is smart, attractive, fit, professional women with out of shape, sloppy, alcoholics. My mom and I went to lunch the other day and she commented on how nice this young couple looked together (they were equally attractive). She said, “Wow. You never see that around here.” And you don’t. You see cavemen with attractive women. The guys here are jerks too (especially the ones who happen to be somewhat attractive). I'm generalizing, I know, but I see these things so often. I went on a date recently with a guy who insulted my neighborhood and my dog, before the date even started. He had nothing to talk about and I carried the entire conversation. He finally started talking about his therapy and that’s what we talked about for the rest of the evening—he said he will be in therapy forever. It’s like his hobby or something. He had the nerve to tell me how picky he is. He said if he doesn’t like the way a girl walks or doesn’t like how she chews, he’s out of there. He said she needs to be perfect because he’s not settling. Being a sloppy alcoholic does not mean you don't fill a womans criteria. Women are picky, but only about the wrong things. You can be a slob who is tall for example, and that will make you some womans "Type". You can be a dirtbag who makes money off starving children, and you will still be some womans type. You can be a muscled up frat boy whose a convicted rapist, and still you will find women dying to be with you. I had a girl recently who picked a fat 30 year old guy that laughs at his own farts, makes her pay for dinner, and ignores her all the time, just because he's 4 inches taller than me, has long blonde hair, and looks stronger (I won't bother explaining why being fatter than someone doesn't necessarily make you stronger) . This isn't some girl that was meant for him either, she is always having intelligent and profound conversations with me, I make her laugh, I act more manly, I am way more generous, but guess what? I'm 5'7 and 154, he's 5'11 and 240 lbs with long blonde hair. So yeah, I guess women aren't picky per se, just really shallow and about the dumbest things.
Author irc333 Posted July 30, 2011 Author Posted July 30, 2011 I had some woman reply to my email on a dating site that she couldn't date me because I looked similar to her ex boyfriend. :laugh:
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