jayjay7 Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 Thanks all for your advice on a previous post. So the situation now is this....we have been apart for about a month now, as such I have started to make enquiries about bedsits in a different area. So I need to sort this out asap because I have no where to live at the moment. But it also means that I will be signing a tenency agreement for a year and will unfortunately have to claim benefits until I get a job, get a loan etc, so once I go through with it I can't ever go back. (Partly because we wouldn't be able to live together due to tenency and partly because he would let me go and live in a bedsit without a pot to p*** in). So I sent him a text 2 days ago, really calm and explained the situation and if there was anyway that we could resolve this, that I didn't need an answer right now but I would absolutley need one in a few days. I said if he didn't think that we could work it out to just give me a straight answer and I'll just continue with what I've got to do. I said I wanted to try this one last time, because then at least I would of tried. Also that I was not in anyway angry or wanting to play games. How long should I give him to decide without coming across as a nagging cow. Because this all rests with him, it is crucial there is a decision becuase I'm sleeping on friends sofas. He's away at the moment, but should be back in the next few days, don't know exactly, but that shouldn't stop him from making a decision should it. Thanks for any advice.
geegirl Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 You are grasping at straws. Go back and read your last post. You tried to provoke a positive response the last time to try again. He ignored it. You're trying again and now using this as an excuse to get him to come around. How many times do you want to give it "one last try"? If you've tried more than once without getting the response you want, most likely you won't get one the second time around. Stop. He's not giving you any solid indication that he wants to try. Nothing. What about that is making you hold on? And even if you move and say he comes back all reformed and wanting to be the perfect boyfriend, you both will make it work no matter the situation. Stop putting your life on hold. Push forward and start getting your life in order, for you and no one else. If he wants you, he'll come and find you.
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