alexa137 Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 if you messed up with a guy you were dating, and you kinda think he like you, how long do you wait to hear from him? even though the wait is driving me craZy! few days? a week? personally i think a week is too long! we date almost 3 mths, long story, I really really like this guy alot! asked for a sceond chance and told him ALL of my feelings! prob too much! no response yet, its been since last night
fofiffs Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 Its only been since last night. Give him some time to think about it.
mr.goodguy Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 Gotta be careful Alexa. Telling him everything has exposed all your cards. Your only saving grace is to relax, breath, not obsess over the text message. When he responds DO NOT RESPOND IMMEDIATELY. Right now you are eating out of his hand...you need to limit contact and bring the relationship back to the flirtatious days. He needs to long for you in order for him to want to engage in a second try. When he does, the tables will be switched.
Author alexa137 Posted July 29, 2011 Author Posted July 29, 2011 well i did good i didnt text him all day and night yesterday, mainly because now im starting to get pissed! i mean how you spend alot of time and do alot of things with someone for almost 3 months, have sex, act like you like someone and then not have any words?? how can someone be so heartless? no feelings/ doesnt care? it hurts alot! wasted my time, made me think you liked me, i really cant believe it because i thought this one could possibly be the one! and now you wonder why i was single 5 yrs prior to this dude! men are stupid, inconsiderate pigs! im done!
Author alexa137 Posted July 29, 2011 Author Posted July 29, 2011 oh yeah and im really starting to despise him, so i could never even look at him or be friends with him, seeing his pic of facebook pop up makes me say ew!
THECHAMPISHERE Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 oh yeah and im really starting to despise him, so i could never even look at him or be friends with him, seeing his pic of facebook pop up makes me say ew! So you admittedly messed up and it's his fault for not being gung ho and jumping back into things? True, makes perfect sense.
KathyM Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 if you messed up with a guy you were dating, and you kinda think he like you, how long do you wait to hear from him? even though the wait is driving me craZy! few days? a week? personally i think a week is too long! we date almost 3 mths, long story, I really really like this guy alot! asked for a sceond chance and told him ALL of my feelings! prob too much! no response yet, its been since last night Leave him alone for now. You've told him you wanted a second chance. Now the ball is in his court. Don't pressure him. If he's interested in giving you another chance, he'll contact you.
smudge21 Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 It's hard to comment unless we know what you mean by you messed up. Plus, as it was you who messed up, how come it's him that's at fault now. Not judging you here, only going by what you've told us so far. Oh and we're not all pigs, we're just human and therefore occasionally screw up.
Author alexa137 Posted August 5, 2011 Author Posted August 5, 2011 weird that i get an email response today about this situation because i was just going to comment about how he hasnt attempted to make any kind of contact for about 8 days, nothing, no txt no call no email NOTHING! how can you be so heartless?? i mean we texted or talked everyday for almost 3 mths!and how you go from seeing someone 3 or 4 days a week to nothing for 2 weeks? unbelievable! guess he never cared or liked me much at all
dreamingoftigers Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 There is a book called How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It that states that the most likely predictor for a man leaving a woman is emotional hyperarousal (I.e. Her being very emotionally reactive). Most men can't handle sudden shifts in emotion due to their own cortisol/testosterone reactions and to be blunt: YOU SEEM VERY EMOTIONALLY REACTIVE. I'd look into that before diving into another relationship.
KathyM Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 Dating is a very precarious situation. One false move, and that can very likely be the end of the relationship. People are not married or commited, and can easily leave if some red flag or some incident or words strikes somebody as negative. My sister just dumped a guy she had been dating regularly for the last three months. They used to see each other almost every day, and talk on the phone, text or Email several times a day. But one night, the guy kind of flipped out about something--a change of plans he wasn't happy about--and he overreacted. That was the last of that relationship. People don't have to put up with crap from those they are dating. Very easy to leave the relationship. That was it for my sister. She had no desire to talk to him, wouldn't answer his calls or Emails. She wanted out, and she left. Life is too short to waste time with unstable people that you are only in a dating relationship with. Dating is like one long job interview. If there's something bad in your resume or something you say that rubs the interviewer the wrong way, you don't get the job. If you show some side of yourself that is disagreeable or a deal breaker, you often don't get a second chance. Just learn from your mistakes and try not to make them with the next guy.
Author alexa137 Posted August 5, 2011 Author Posted August 5, 2011 well i guess i kinda understand, but i would think if you like someone u would give them a second chance, i am very emotional, i get hurt easily, and my past ruins my future all the time. just so tired of meeting someone and a few months later its get ended. it has happened like 5 times in the past 6 yrs, but thats ok im done! i have no desire to even be near a man, let alone talk or anything right now. but what gets me is i could be hurt or dead and he doesnt care! i know im being a little irrrational but wow! it really hurts! i liked this guy alot and he was good boyfriend material i actually thought he was the one! but if i see a man starts a pattern with me like all the other ones of course im gonna think bad things, like hes with another girl or cheating on me! i just want to be someones only one! and that hasnt happened yet in 23 yrs! its very depressing and boring to know that you are going to be single and never married or in a relationship for the rest of your life when i know i have potential for it. i dont trust men period, every man i have been with cheat! and none want to be in a relationship sucks
Eddie Edirol Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 well i guess i kinda understand, but i would think if you like someone u would give them a second chance,......... i dont trust men period, every man i have been with cheat! and none want to be in a relationship sucks You said it yourself. if you LIKE someone you give them a second chance. So he didnt like you all that much. So if he didnt cut you off now, he would have done it in a few months. Plus you didnt tell us if you screwed up a few times before this. if youre this crazy emotional swaering off all men because you screwed up, thats pretty much the reason you cant keep a man. There are men that want to be in a relationship, but your man picker is off. You might want to make some adjustments to that.
Author alexa137 Posted August 5, 2011 Author Posted August 5, 2011 well i guess he was a good liar, user and fake then, because he told me he liked how he felt around me and he took me to a family wedding, his best friends sons bday party, his dr appts, the park sometimes with his son, putt putt movies dinner, baseball game and some more,i even let him spend the night at my apt, which i usally dont do, we had sex(the best) 3 times a week and i thought both of us enjoyed it very much, he txted or called me everyday, so i guess that is what bothers me and cant believe how someone can be so heartless but on another note, im very different, i have morals values etc. if im dating someone and especially having sex with that person, i will not get romantic or sexual with another man, alot of men do this and thinks its ok, i def dont think having sex with multiple people is right or safe, its just disgusting! If im dating one man i want to focus everything on him, and i thought he was with me but towards the last fews i had a feeling he was dating someone else or also backing away because i had more feelings and wanted to become exclusive and more than just dating. but now i give up after 49 men im done!
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