JustTawm Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 I guess this is the right sub forum for my question, but I could be wrong! Keeping it quick: -2 year relationship -she breaks up with me, Im ok initially -find out she lied about the reasons and was cheating, leading me on etc -went loopy, upset, went into a dark place etc. Said horrible things but apologised. She didn't for cheating -Been NC for a month. Two months on atm. -Told she's in love with the guy she cheated with me on after a month, they're having lots of big arguments I feel over her however I'd be lying if I said no part of me misses her or her family etc but I certainly do not love her or want her back. Maybe ten years into the future; I'm 22 she's 20 - but never for a long, long time. So anyway, I keep being told things that I've stated I don't want to hear - that she's bragging about how bad I was in bed and how amazing this guy is (contrary to what she boasted to her friends during our time together). How she's going around saying that I need a psychiatrist. How she's never felt this way before with someone, 'not even' me Is she trying to convince herself and her friends that I was a rubbish boyfriend and a horrible person as to make her current relationship seem 'better' that what we had? I've forgiven her, and am moving on and becoming a better, stronger person for it. I never bitch about her to anyone either, even if they bring it up I just brush the subject away. So, is she just that immature, does she resent me for what I previously said (having said she doesn't hate me), or is she realising that our relationship was actually better than what she has now etc. Any help/advice/thoughts welcome - I just want to understand so I can be prepared for any and all eventualities! Thanks x
2011 Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 Looks like she is trying to ego boost herself - self preservation - and demean you because if you don't look bad she will to friends and family. Classic disaster recovery behaviour, wouldn't take any notice of it. Stick to NC she sounds selfish. If you contact her she will get an ego turbo boost and will go into character assassination overdrive about you to her friends and family. 2011
mr.goodguy Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 Her bad mouthing you say more about her that it does about you. She seems like a weak, pathetic being to try and put someone down. Disgusting. Agree with 2011...NC her...her tantrum will subside over time and she'll grow curious of you. Remember "success is the best revenge"...be happy and people are attracted to that quality. Your ex will most likely turn from curious to jealous.
Author JustTawm Posted July 28, 2011 Author Posted July 28, 2011 Thanks for the replies guys, appreciate it. Spoke to some friends that pretty much said the same along with saying she's trying to reassure herself that she made the right choice and that her current relationship is better etc. Funny thing is I know she's getting updates on me occasionally as I still have contact with her father (in that I have to due to part time work for him); however I do try to limit contact lest I seem like I'm trying to worm my way back in which I seriously am not! She'll be seeing me in Dec as we both do this one activity and I'm sure as hell not sacrificing my fun with friends because of her. Will be amusing seeing her reaction to the new me and my new girl! Again, thanks guys.
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