Is 6 months long enough before you go and meet your gf who lives somewhere else?

[LickABattery]

I met this girl 2 months ago and we have been going out for a month (yeah i know that happened fast right? but we talked so much over the 1st month and we kinda clicked and went into a LDR) Im from UK and she is From Sweden. Im also 18 and shes 17. We met online btw and we do talk alot (shes currently gone to USA for a month and im missing her Q.Q).

 

Now im thinking about talking to her about me going over to see her sometime in December just before Christmas, but is that too early go and meet her? or do you think its long enough. Keep in my mind ive been with her since June so do you think 6 months is long enough before you go and meet?

 

I just really want to meet her and be with her. I love her so much.

[aisle_seat]

Why wait? You're both pretty young so I don't know if you need your parents' permission or anything, but assuming that's not an issue for either one of you, what are you waiting for? Sweden's not that big a jump from the UK so make it happen! Might as well find out now if you're compatible when you're together. I'm not saying you've got to dive into the deep into the pool right away, but if you can go see her sooner, why not?

[Audrina]

I'm in a LDR and we met online. While you've chosen to be exclusive to each other during this time, I don't think you can really be in a relationship until you've met. You have to face the reality that in person, the chemistry that you have online just may not translate. It actually happens all the time.

 

But to give you hope, my boyfriend and I talked online for two years, I had feelings for him at least 18 months before we met, and I actually tried to date other people but it went horribly, about 12 months before we met I decided I was going to just not date for awhile - until I either got over my feelings for this man online, or we met. Well, during that time his feelings for me grew more and more, and we decided to meet.

 

Before we met we had a conversation about our expectations. We both realized that our chemistry might not be the same in person and if it wasn't there was no pressure there, we would just go on living our lives as friends and have a great weekend together, but if there was chemistry we were going to enter into a LDR because it meant that we genuinely saw the possibility of our relationship working out for the long term.

 

I think if you have the genuine intention of being in a REAL relationship, you should meet as soon as possible. It's the only way to find out if the chemistry between you is real and see where you can from there.

 

I think that by delaying it, you are allowing each other to live a life not knowing the truth and being invested in something that just may not work out. The only way to know is to meet.

[LickABattery]

Ahhh ty to you both, Helped me alot ^^, ill have to see if i can get there any sooner, Only reason i said December time is because she gonna be busy with school and i cant go next month cause shes in USA till 25th of next month.

 

thank you for giving me abit of advice really helped... hehe ill let you know what happens between us ^^.

[HeavenOrHell]

I met my partner IRL, almost 4 months after we met online, we wanted to meet asap, so we'd know whether we had feelings for each other as couple or not, you can't know that for sure until you meet. If it's left too long you might just be building up this fantasy world in your head.

[Audrina]

I met my partner IRL, almost 4 months after we met online, we wanted to meet asap, so we'd know whether we had feelings for each other as couple or not, you can't know that for sure until you meet. If it's left too long you might just be building up this fantasy world in your head.

 

This is exactly the truth. The internet allows you to believe your relationship and your partner is whatever you want them to be, it's only through personal interaction that you get to figure out how you guys really are and what you have between you.

 

I know it feels like love now, and I have to respect that, I definitely thought I was in love with my boyfriend UNTIL I met him the first time, I saw him, we hugged, I realized that while I had very strong feelings for him I couldn't say whether or not I loved him until we spent more time together in person.

 

Now I can say, without a doubt, I am totally in love with him.

[HeavenOrHell]

Agree with all of this!

 

 

 

This is exactly the truth. The internet allows you to believe your relationship and your partner is whatever you want them to be, it's only through personal interaction that you get to figure out how you guys really are and what you have between you.

 

I know it feels like love now, and I have to respect that, I definitely thought I was in love with my boyfriend UNTIL I met him the first time, I saw him, we hugged, I realized that while I had very strong feelings for him I couldn't say whether or not I loved him until we spent more time together in person.

 

Now I can say, without a doubt, I am totally in love with him.

[LickABattery]

Thank you for your advice as soon as she gets back from her 1 month vacation to USA, i'll talk to her about meeting up. I'm really looking forward to it ^^.

 

I get where your guys are coming from with the whole meet up to see if the chemistry is the same and i totally agree, i really hope the chemistry is will still be there between us when we meet cause i love her to bits.

 

And at the first guy who posted, you absolutely right UK to Sweden isn't such a big jump i actually thought it was really far from the UK but its not. Thanks for the advice guys, ill defeintly try and meet her ASAP.

 

[AngryPMS]

Wow that's long enough already! I don't think I can wait that long to see the girl I love. Go see her bro!