sagirl1891 Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 I met this guy over a week ago and we flirted all week. By the end of the week, we kissed. He suggested we do a dinner date, and we've been texting back and forth about when. We have a mutual friend who talked to him today and she said he said that I was super sweet and cute, but he was nervous he was too much for me/I'm too innocent for him. After she talked to him, he wrote me saying that this week was pretty crazy for him, how about next week? I know that he's going on vacation so he's not just putting me off. Is this worth it to pursue? What the heck does that mean?! *BTW I recently started dating again and I'm pretty clueless about how to flirt/recognize a flirt. It took me all week to realize he was flirting...which is sad because it was so blatantly obvious. I also have confidence issues because I couldn't believe that someone as gorgeous as him was into me...
malibustacydoll Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 I have used that statement before. If he had said it directly to you my guess would be he was testing the waters. I might say it in terms of "you couldn't handle this" or "I am too much for you". If you've spent this much time talking he obviously likes you. Also, if his flirting is now obvious to you-- were you flirting back with him, or was he doing all the work laying it on strong? Perhaps if it was him doing most of the flirting and you weren't being that responsive he thought you were too innocent or not into him. If he has made a statement about you potentially being too innocent, it sounds like he may need for you to take some initiative. If I were you I'd call him and tell him a date/time for next week for dinner-- be specific and see if he is available then. If he is not available and wants to still meet with you then he will suggest another one.
Author sagirl1891 Posted July 28, 2011 Author Posted July 28, 2011 I have used that statement before. If he had said it directly to you my guess would be he was testing the waters. I might say it in terms of "you couldn't handle this" or "I am too much for you". If you've spent this much time talking he obviously likes you. Also, if his flirting is now obvious to you-- were you flirting back with him, or was he doing all the work laying it on strong? Perhaps if it was him doing most of the flirting and you weren't being that responsive he thought you were too innocent or not into him. If he has made a statement about you potentially being too innocent, it sounds like he may need for you to take some initiative. If I were you I'd call him and tell him a date/time for next week for dinner-- be specific and see if he is available then. If he is not available and wants to still meet with you then he will suggest another one. He said it about me to someone else. He was doing a lot of the work, yes, because I was bumbling...he was also flirting in front of lots of people that I wasn't sure how to respond to. Thanks for the advice, I'm gonna change the dinner date thing to just drinks. Is that better?
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