ilovedhim Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 Without going into too much detail, is it possible for a guy to have sex only once a month and be content? This guy says he's happy to well take care of things on his own and if he ever wants more all he has to do is go to a bar, which I definitely believe. But for him once a month is sufficient.
Rinas Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 Whatever works for him I suppose. It's unlikely that id be able to connect with said guy however. Perhaps it's just because he's single in the time being?
somedude81 Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 Why are you asking? Is the once a month with you? And you want more? As for me if I'd be enough with once a month, not really. But that's still a lot more than once every two years...
zengirl Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 It really depends on the context of which this information was given. A guy in a relationship wanting sex once a month? Weird. A guy not in a relationship wanting a FWB he can hook up with just once a month? Certainly possible. I know some romantic guys who prefer not having sex without being in love, but they do find it difficult to go long periods of time without sex and would certainly have it sparingly if that were a good option and the people were decent enough? It's a low number.
Author ilovedhim Posted July 28, 2011 Author Posted July 28, 2011 Yes he's single and not looking for a relationship at the moment. No I couldn't put up with it either He says he's concentrating on work and doesn't want the distraction. I tend to agree relationships can be energy draining, bad ones at least. How can you live with having sex so infrequently?
somedude81 Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 Yes he's single and not looking for a relationship at the moment. No I couldn't put up with it either He says he's concentrating on work and doesn't want the distraction. I tend to agree relationships can be energy draining, bad ones at least. How can you live with having sex so infrequently? So I take it you were considering a relationship or something and his lack of desire threw you off? As for how I can live with having sex so infrequently. Who says I'm living? Believe me, it drives me insane.
zengirl Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 Yes he's single and not looking for a relationship at the moment. No I couldn't put up with it either He says he's concentrating on work and doesn't want the distraction. I tend to agree relationships can be energy draining, bad ones at least. How can you live with having sex so infrequently? That makes sense to me, from where that guy is coming from. I know guys in similar situations.
Author ilovedhim Posted July 28, 2011 Author Posted July 28, 2011 So I take it you were considering a relationship or something and his lack of desire threw you off? As for how I can live with having sex so infrequently. Who says I'm living? Believe me, it drives me insane. Nice people don't finish last, maybe it just takes us longer. A while ago I was considering dating him but I'm not so keen on wasting my time on guys like this. He's not a player just like you said has no desire and was hurt a lot in the past. And since I value my self I would never get into a bleh relationship and heaven forbid FWB. Over the weekend I met some real winners. One that stands out has 3 kids and a wife, a couple of girlfriends on the side and was trying to hook me! The real kicker is he wasn't hiding anything!!! It seems like every guy I meet sees no benefit in dating or getting into LTR. Must be women are giving it up for nothing nowadays
sm1tten Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 Without going into too much detail, is it possible for a guy to have sex only once a month and be content? This guy says he's happy to well take care of things on his own and if he ever wants more all he has to do is go to a bar, which I definitely believe. But for him once a month is sufficient. Some guys have lower sex drives/needs than others, but this sounds more like he doesn't want to do the "work" that it would take to have regular sex and therefore he'd just take it or leave it as it comes. I've never been there but I know guys who have.
Stockalone Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 Without going into too much detail, is it possible for a guy to have sex only once a month and be content? Why shouldn't it be possible? For me, no relationship = no sex. And I agree with zengirl that context is relevant as well. Would he also be content with having sex once a month if he were in a relationship?
Author ilovedhim Posted July 28, 2011 Author Posted July 28, 2011 Some guys have lower sex drives/needs than others, but this sounds more like he doesn't want to do the "work" that it would take to have regular sex and therefore he'd just take it or leave it as it comes. I've never been there but I know guys who have. True. He says all he's gotten in the past is drama and he's sick of it. But we're talking years ago. Will he ever come back to normal?
OliveOyl Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 How can you live with having sex so infrequently? Good question to ask a lot of the married people on this board. Jerking off works well for some men.
EasyHeart Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 Yes he's single and not looking for a relationship at the moment. No I couldn't put up with it either He says he's concentrating on work and doesn't want the distraction. I tend to agree relationships can be energy draining, bad ones at least. How can you live with having sex so infrequently?Sounds perfectly reasonable to me. Pretty much every guy in the world goes more than a month without sex when it's involuntary, and somehow they survive. Why not do it voluntarily if you don't want the hassle of a relationship?
antonov054 Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 In reality, and more! I somehow one year was not.
Author ilovedhim Posted July 28, 2011 Author Posted July 28, 2011 Everyone can sleep with who they want. I could care less. My point was IME guys dont have to work for it at all. I know some women that dont even get dinner just straight to a hotel room. Many of the people i work with dont even date. They hang out at bars with their buddies until theyre drunk then meetup with their bootie calls. Zero effort.
Fondue Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 I don't like sex very much, to be honest. Once a month is plenty enough for me. And to elaborate, I'm not much of a sexual person either. I can go cold turkey for months at a time and not even realize it. Only every once in a while I have like a week-long urge to just have sex with anything that moves or masturbate for hours on end, but that comes about only once in a couple of months or so. Otherwise, I can abstain from all sexual activity without much thought at all. I think I have a hormonal problem?
Stockalone Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 My point was IME guys dont have to work for it at all. There are plenty of guys whose experience has been different. I know some women that dont even get dinner just straight to a hotel room. Well, as long as those women go along with this, they can't be too bothered by it.
alexandria35 Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 Without going into too much detail, is it possible for a guy to have sex only once a month and be content? This guy says he's happy to well take care of things on his own and if he ever wants more all he has to do is go to a bar, which I definitely believe. But for him once a month is sufficient. I just don't see the problem here. Especially since the guy is single. People with healthy sex drives need the sexual release of a good orgasm on a regular basis and most people know how to take care of that need for themselves. A lot of people, men included, prefer for their sexual encounters with other people to be in the context of a relationship. I can't for the life of me see anything flawed in abstaining from having cheap meaningless one night stands.
thatone Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 True. He says all he's gotten in the past is drama and he's sick of it. But we're talking years ago. Will he ever come back to normal? at that point you tell him that he just found the wrong people, relationships aren't supposed to be hard, and give him a blush and a smile. even if he didn't take you up on the hint he would be thinking about it. men are creatures of habit. if he's gotten into a routine that works for him, or he has convinced himself is working for him, someone will have to change his mind for him to abandon that routine.
KR10N Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 Without going into too much detail, is it possible for a guy to have sex only once a month and be content? This guy says he's happy to well take care of things on his own and if he ever wants more all he has to do is go to a bar, which I definitely believe. But for him once a month is sufficient.I know of a couple who have sex once or twice a month & it's all to make the husband happy... more importantly so the wife gets money & goes shopping. Sad.
phineas Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 Without going into too much detail, is it possible for a guy to have sex only once a month and be content? This guy says he's happy to well take care of things on his own and if he ever wants more all he has to do is go to a bar, which I definitely believe. But for him once a month is sufficient. sounds like my summer. I got a ton a of work to do this summer + I got two kids on weekends & half the week. So my free time is spent doing manual labor. Not really interested in a relationship right now. I don't usually have free time until the sun sets, then I grill something on my back porch & relax listening to music & surf the net or watch something on my laptop. Having to give attention to a woman really isn't a priority for me right now & don't tell me women don't require all that much attention. Ya do. I don't have time for more than one date a week if that & not interested in txting or chatting on the phone often besides, that just leads to the friendzone anyway so until I can be sure I have time for face-to-face contact with a woman I prefer to stay single.
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