immitable Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 Hello everyone, I'll try to keep it short.. my gf of 5.5 yrs broke up with me about 2 months ago, out of the blue like everyone else . Somehow we got stuck in a rut. We're both in 30's, and have known each other for a long period of time. immediately after the BU I pleaded, begged etc but wasn't going to extremes, I also tried reaching out to her, she would usually respond but not in a timely manner and and than decided to go nc to let myself time to heal and understand and give her her space. She said she needs space and herself and will contact me when she feels ready.The last txt message i sent was about a month ago, to see if I could see her, recieved an answer 2 days later telling me she is too busy but if I need anything her folks are at the apartment (visiting) and I could go there and pick up some of my stuff if I needed it. Still has us as in relationship on fb. What do you guys think? Is there any chance of making up? When is the best time to try to contact her again or what would be the best way? like I said I am on nc with her for about a month and 2 months post breakup.
smudge21 Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 Sadly she's making it clear that right now, she's not ready to talk or even see you. So my friend, the only option is to stay NC and focus on yourself. It is often said that NC heals and often repairs, in that it can bring people back, but you should never focus on that. It all depends on how strong the relationship was and whether the dumper still has feelings. Try not to think about what ifs and all the rest (easier said than done I know) but think instead about the future - go do something you haven't done for a good many years or contact people you haven't seen. If things are going to happen, they won't if you keep breaking NC. I don't want to give you false hope, but in order for her to miss you, she has to first miss you... if you get what I mean.
Author immitable Posted July 28, 2011 Author Posted July 28, 2011 @smudge21, thank you very much for your insight , that is exactly what I am doing. She is also very stubborn although I refrain from making assumptions. I'll just let the things take their flow. Did a lot of renovating work lately, met with some old friends, met a couple of ex's too - it is tough but it is getting better I hope The funny thing is that she was the one who was chasing me in the beginning and told me that she had a gut feeling that I was the one and now she said that her gut feeling told her the relationship is not right, funny...
smudge21 Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 Yeah, my recent ex and the one before that chased me at first too. Never really changes anything. People just change... nothing you can do about it.
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