adele80 Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 Hi Everyone, Just wondering what your thoughts are on if a couple split up whether they could work through their problems and be happy instead of actually splitting up. Of course it depends on the problems but what are the main things that need to happen for the second chance to work do e.g. both parties need to really want to make it work?? - does it ever work in the end or does it lead to splitting up again down the road??? For me my heart is not in working through my relationship of 10 years as I have a gut feeling its over and I wont change the way I feel, but my conscience and morals are saying I should try to make the relationship work and give my ex that second chance!!! Thanks!!
wilsonx Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 Its honestly up to the 2 people in the relationship to put the effort in to make it work. Both people have to put the effort into it. Anything less and it will not work anymore
aerogurl87 Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 I think if both people really want it to work it can. The worst mistake I made was being too scared to try to make things work with my ex and I kick myself everyday for not taking a chance and trying to at least see if anything was possible between him and I.
Wesker Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 Don't do what my EX Girlfriend did and let things bubble up for a year. Not once did she ever mention what she was feeling, and would like happen. Then just like that, she dumps me without giving any effort to try and fix things. And we were together for almost 8 years. Whether things work out or not, the point is that you made every effort to fix, and save your relationship. Taking the cowards way and leaving will just leave a big gaping hole with the never ending "what if" haunting you. Plus cause just more hurt.
Arlia Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 I'd say as long as there is love, you can save the relationship/start again. During a reationship, if there are problems going on for too long and that no efforts are made to solve them, the love will slowly disappear and possibly leak to a BU. In that happens, having a second chance is very difficult.
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