alexa137 Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 so I messed up, and now i think he doesnt want to date me anymore and im devastated, basically because this happens alot! like 10 times in 6 yrs basically he thinks that when he does other things, i get mad or something. the scenario was a few nights ago wheni tried to call and text him he didnt respond, for like 4 hours, so i started thinking he was ignoring me. come o find out he says his cell phone battery died and he was out of town. well my first thought was he was with another girl and ignoring me. cant help it my past makes me not trust people. i am really trying hard to change to way i feel but it is extremely hard. this guy is great! love being with him and hes a good catch! i could see myself with him, until now i think. we talked some last night, but im so sad because i havent heard from him today. I feel like he hates me! been crying and all i wanna do is sleep for 2 days! the hurt the pain is drivingg me crazy! i guess the best thing is to leave him alone and wait and see. One thing he did say is that he is making big changes for his future and hes not sure if he wants to take it to the next level with me( as in serious, bf/gf) we have been dating 2 1/2 months and im so ready for a relationship, so tired of just texting and dating and sexing with a guy. to be honest we dont do much together anymore this past week i think hes holding back. my previous post on here was :how long til becomg bf/gf? about 2 weeks ago theres so much i want to say, some i already did, like i dont want to lose you( even tho your not mine), i like being with you, sorry, etc. any ideas or suggestions or just leave him alone? even tho its killing me??
azsinglegal Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 Take it easy. Go out with your friends. Quit obsessing about him. It's only been 2.5 months. Why are you crying and wanting to sleep for 2 days over a few months? Did this guy really rule your world that much? You need to find your strength and live your life and not revolve around a guy you've only been dating a short time. It really makes me sad to read this. Cowgirl up!
Author alexa137 Posted July 27, 2011 Author Posted July 27, 2011 to be honest, really, I dont do anything! but sit home on computer, go to pool, watch tv, or sleep! I dont have a job i am very depressed and i have no money. My friends(3) are busy, they either are far away, have lots of kids or work. I have NO life! the main reason i am so upset is because i really was trying to change my ways but its so damn hard! part of me thinks im an ok woman, but i have so bad qualities so trying to fix them. i have been thru so much pain and hurt and heartache the past 22 yrs of my life and just wish i would find the one, i really thought this guy was the one. he has everything i was looking for and of course i screwed up. all my fault, and now i'm done with men! almost 41 and never been married or even close to it! i just want someone to tell me they love me and care for me and be with me. i hate myself right now! i have nothing!
azsinglegal Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 to be honest, really, I dont do anything! but sit home on computer, go to pool, watch tv, or sleep! I dont have a job i am very depressed and i have no money. My friends(3) are busy, they either are far away, have lots of kids or work. I have NO life! the main reason i am so upset is because i really was trying to change my ways but its so damn hard! part of me thinks im an ok woman, but i have so bad qualities so trying to fix them. i have been thru so much pain and hurt and heartache the past 22 yrs of my life and just wish i would find the one, i really thought this guy was the one. he has everything i was looking for and of course i screwed up. all my fault, and now i'm done with men! almost 41 and never been married or even close to it! i just want someone to tell me they love me and care for me and be with me. i hate myself right now! i have nothing! I'm 38, single and in a similar boat. You need to find YOU. How can you expect someone to love you when you don't love yourself? You need to find strength from within. Build a life of your own so when you DO meet someone you'll have something to give back to them. Right now...what do you have to give except being needy and desperate? I'm sorry, but that's where you're at. I've been out of work for 7 months, my man broke up with me when he left overseas in March. I had nothing too...but I took that time to find myself. I've read alot of books and really focused on who I am and what I want. Now, I know why my relationships failed. I'm not sure I want another one right now because I'm not prepared to give 100% of myself to it. The only bad quality you have is lack of self. Read this book: Loving him without losing you, by Beverly Engel. It's changed my life and outlook on relationships. http://www.amazon.com/Loving-Him-without-Losing-You/dp/0471409790 And for goodness sake - quit sitting around waiting on him and go out there and get yourself a life woman!
Author alexa137 Posted July 27, 2011 Author Posted July 27, 2011 im in that process but its really hard, i know im not that bad and i feel i have alot to offer, ive been told by an ex im wifey material, i do like to help people in certain things, i guess the problem is i dont know what men want. my way of thinking maybe wrong. I take care of myself and my child, clean, cook, i like to have fun, when its possible, i had some fun times with this guy, and he has taken me places ive never been before! and it made me felt like heactually liked and cared for me. all my other men encounters have been just sex, ive only had 2 actual boyfriends in 22 yrs, they ALL cheated on me and lied. didnt want to be seen with me etc.. all the crappy stuff, all the things i didnt want. but when i started dating this guy was different. dinner, movies, visiting each other, he even took me to a family wedding, which ive been to and also his best friends kids bday party. maybe you think so what, but it means something to me. also visited his family at a bbq, met his dad and other family, asked me to ride along to a dr appt, ive met his son. Ive NEver had any other guy do this with me or for me. so of course i was thinking he likes me etc. to be honest, i dont know where to start to get a life, i live in a small town, nothing to do, no money, no gas for car, boring place. i cant make changes til i get a job, my unemployment runs out aug 8th so i sepdn my days on the internet looking for jobs, facebooking and posting things for sale to make a lil money to get something i need. my life sucks! i could go on and on and on, i tend to talk ALOT!
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