love_is_hard Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 I'm new to the forum and I'm not sure if this is the correct area to post this but I need some advice. My BF of almost 2 years (but lifetime friend) has an 8 year old daughter. He hasn't not been very involved in her life other than child support and one or two weekend visits a year until we got together. (not exactly sure why the change of heart). Anyway, she is staying with us for two weeks right now just like last summer and things are very hard. She does not like me no matter what I do, but whatever. I'm more concerned that she keeps upsetting him. He keeps planning activities (biking, hiking, fishing) and she keeps refusing to go. I can tell its really hurting his feelings. They leave for Disney tomorrow, just the two of them and I don't know what to say to him in case things go wrong. Any one been in a similar situation and can offer suggestions?
bentnotbroken Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 Let them figure it out. A relationship must be built for the ones involved, by the ones involved. They must figure out what they each need, what each is willing to work toward and what they can and should do without.. Unfortunately, they had better figure it out soon because resentment can and will build from both of them if they are both unhappy right now.
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