My girl's ex is back in her life and now we've got a big struggle!

[Landesko]

Hello people. I'm sure that lots of people have gone through what I'm going through, but something is seriously wrong! Me and my girl have been going out for 2 years and everything has been all fine and dandy! But just this past month, she's been talking to hex ex boyfriend and I dont feel all that comfortable any more. At first i started off by telling her that he's just trying to get her back, and now, she's confused and she doesn't know which one she wants. And this stuff is running me crazy. Each time I try to explain my self, it turns into an argument and she starts crying. Then her ex comes in the picture and cheers her up. And to make matter worse, she now feels that she still likes me, but she cant be physical with me any more. It makes her sick. I will go to touch her and she'd push me away. But she plays around and wrestles with her ex. And she tells me these things! And she's always bringing up things that I've done in the past. using my past against me, but I cant bring up her past because its keeping the past alive... She tells me not to remember the past, but she steadily brings it up with mine. I feel that her ex has got this damn death grip on her, and she will not listen to anyone but him.

 

She thinks its a psychological thing to it, and she thinks that I mean to make her mad, but I only tell her the facts and. I try to tell her my side of the story and how I see things, but when I do, she starts crying. I got no control over that. But she says that her ex has never raised his voice at her, never made her mad, and he's always nice and sweet. And this is the same girl who a couple weeks before this started gave me a note saying that I was the best thing in her life and how she's always happy to be around me, and all that good stuff. She still loves me, but i feel that she loves him too! I always end up chewing her out at night because all she does is talk about her ex and what he's done and his stories. I don't want to hear about her ex all day long. She don't even come over and see me like she use to. Its use to be that she's come over and stay all day. Now she will come over, then leave 45 minutes later and stay with her ex all day long or until he goes to work. Then she'll stay on the job and watch him. She's always telling me about guys hitting on her at work, and not once has she told them we was going out. I just don't know what to do any more. I want to stay with her, but if she decides to stay with me, i would not be able to look at her the same ever again! What should I do??? How do I still make this work. What do I need to do to show her that I still care for her??? I've done everything I could think of, but its not working.

[istilllovehim]

Back up and give her time. She is doing you dirty. I cant believe that after two years she is doing you this way. Bless your heart, I wish you luck and love.