ricious Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 Hey:) My ex broke up with me a bit over a month ago because he's moving away overseas and although we sort of considered going long distance he decided he can't do it because he didn't want to keep me waiting and he was afraid it'd fall apart. We decided to stay friends and we talked quite a few times even after he moved, but a few days ago I explained to him that I couldn't stay friends because I liked him too much so it hurts that we can't have a relationship even though he loves me and I want one, but I said I accept and sort of agree about breaking up. I'm kind of glad I made this choice. I'm less stressed about the whole break up and everything. But I want to know- is there any chance he'll come back and want to get back together? Or is there anything I can do to make it more possible for him to come back to me? What do you think?
marqueemoon4 Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 Yea, if you still have stong feelings for him and he ended it with you and is leaving the area, its best you're not friends imho. you have to heal.
Philosoraptor Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 You can do nothing to change his mind. Just worry about yourself and work on what you need to take care of. If he comes back then he does and you will have to decide if you want to try again. If he doesn't then at least you wern't sitting around waiting and instead you were working on yourself.
Author ricious Posted July 28, 2011 Author Posted July 28, 2011 Thank you for answering so there's nothing I can or should do even if I'm hoping to get back together... hmmm alright.
mr.goodguy Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 Unfortunately there isn't anything you can do. He is moving. The best thing to do is limit contact...ween yourself off him. It's going to be difficult but you will survive. all the best.
Tayla Posted July 29, 2011 Posted July 29, 2011 (edited) Yes there are things you can do, Hope for the future while living in the present. Meaning keep the flame simmering , you just never know what heart burns for you til the distance is rekindled. (Him coming back somtime in the future). I do not toss water on the heart with a defeatist attitude, I do think to some extent you can and should live in the day, accept that for now things cannot be from afar. You seem like a trooper who is at this time going thru the stage of separation. We tend to go thru the denial of the heart to ease the pain. So cutting off ties is a defense ...for some it works. I rarely found it to work though as friends can be a mutual regard in the long scheme of things. Edited July 29, 2011 by Tayla
Author ricious Posted August 6, 2011 Author Posted August 6, 2011 Would it be weird if I casually talk to him now?
eidolon Posted August 6, 2011 Posted August 6, 2011 The only person who can be the judge of that is you. Would it hurt you to talk to him? It's not weird to not be friends with an ex and still talk to them now and then. The only thing that matters is how you'll handle it.
guccimane99 Posted August 10, 2011 Posted August 10, 2011 I am only twenty and this is the best advice i can give you. Work on yourself go to the gym and be the best you can be. Through time you will forget and if he does come back u will be in the best situation MEN WANT a girl that can take care of themselves. They want someone that is beautiful so take good care of yourself and ull have the best chance for him to come back or for someone more suited. I don't say better because no one is better than someone else. There are people better suited but, they are not better because what that person lacks the other might excel at.
Dblock10 Posted August 12, 2011 Posted August 12, 2011 hey, i am in the same sort of situation as you. there seems to be no way to make him come back particularly. your life is going one way and his is going the other way... id say stay in touch sure, but just know you will probably end up being friends and before you know it, he will probably find another girl friend.. then how would you feel ?
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