humbld Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 Me and my wife split up 3 days ago. Im 21, shes 22 we have been together for 4 years. At that time she told me that she was leaving me and moving back to the east coast (we are in washington) because its where her support system is. We have 2 boys. 1 is biologically mine, I came into the picture with the other one when he was only 5 months old. Their ages are 3 and 1. Not only am I having to deal with the emotional stress of being left by the woman I love and planned on spending the rest of my life with. But now she wants to move in with a friend of hers in maryland. She has agreed to let me keep my biological son for the school year and she would get summers. But there are 2 kids, I guess we will swap them in the summer. Neither of us is looking for child support if we are both doing a part. Basically she is going because her friends boyfriend said he could get her a job and she could live with them. Since she has been unemployed for 2 years. So she is moving across the country and splitting up our family and I feel that her moving makes the kids thing a really big hassle. I understand that she wants to get on with her life, I just feel like its selfish. She invited me to go with her but not be together and said that we could try and patch things up over time. Sounds like a bad deal for me seeing as I have a 32-40hr per week job at $20 an hour + bennies. And I'm starting on my bachelor's degree in EET. I don't really have too many friends here but I'm building up my life here I think it would be foolish to dump all this stuff just to be with her, even though I love her and want nothing more than that. What do I do? Im trying to find a way to convince her that I can help in any way as long as she can stay here. What am I supposed to do?
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