micot Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 hi been posting here on and off since i got dumpped about 2 moths ago . been datting this woman for 4 yrs was a good relationship [even she admits we had fun more good than bad times etc ] we've known each other 2 yrs as friends before datting . k one night she leaves me no explination etc , i run into her aa couple days later and ask ''what's up '' she says ''it's not me it's her'' ''i love you BUT not in love with you anymore'' etc. we've had limited contact [very limited] she even dropped by here to get some things [which i was fine with ] ... ANYWAYS last night [Mon] i go to the 24 hr store here , run into a friend we start talking .I see my ex and a group of like 5 people walking across the parking lot [4 girls and a guy] soo i tell my friend ''be right back'' [it happend to be my exs B'Day ] i walk up to her say HI and Happy B'Day -i get ignored, one of her friends i know [have done things to help her out in the past ] i say Hi to her -get ignored .they all leave . NOW it's buggin me all night why my ex couldn't say Hi or Thanks anything to me .i figure she'll call me later [she doesn't ] THE reason why we have limited contact is cause her dad is ill with cancer [he had yet another surgery last week ] i been through that with both my parents ,my ex never has so i comfort her and listen ... my ex always says ''she considers me a friend'' ''a dear friend'' i don't consider us friends latly though . WHEN the break up happend [well after] i asked if it was cause another guy [ i have my reasons] i got no reply THEN she says ''what i do is my buisness'' and ''i don't have to tell you anything'' i AGREED and said ''you're right you don't have to tell me anything '' i'm just asking .... K so back at home after running into the ex my neighbors daughter asks me if i have the computer game ''the sims'' i say no i got that for her,BUT i'm sure she'll lend it to you [we both know the kid she's 8 ] soo she asks me to ask her to borrow the game i say ''o.k.''today [tues] afternoon i give my ex a call tell her the kid wants to borrow the game would that be o.k. she says sure i'll bring it by i say thanks THEN my ex says i'll bring by everything you gave me ,i ask why ? she says she don't want nothing ,i say it's up to you ,figure i'll talk to her when i see her.I ask what was up with last night we strangers now ? she says no she just didn't want to hang out ... SOO tonight my ex knocks on my door ,sees me comming leaves stuff on my steps ,her friend [the one i know ] behind her drops more things on my steps ,i open the door say Hi you can come in ,my ex says they don't have time ,i see the game for the kid put it aside,grab the other stuff bring it to my exs car and say what am i gonna do with this stuff it's for a woman-she's getting in the car.HER friend starts in on me saying ''why don't i leave her alone and stop harrasing her i'm a f'n creep '' i look at my ex and say ''you're gonna let her say that to me ? my ex says she didn't hear the whole thing ...i say to her friend ''seeing someone you know and walking up to them to say hi and happy b'day isn't harrasement'' she says ''i'm a witness to it '' then says i'm a big f'n creep .i held back said you guys have a good night , THEN said i'll give the kid the game and drop this other stuff off on your porch one day '' HER friend says to my ex ''i'm a witness i'll help you get a restraining order'' i laugh wave and they leave with her friend still cursing me out ... NOW if i don't get a call or an e-mail tonight my ex at least apologizing for her friend then this situation just got real ugly .I know she probably wont call or mail for what ever reason embarasement etc BUT still that was very disrespectful to do to me for no reason I know her friend is just defending her BUT she's in her 40's not some kid
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 she's in her 40's not some kid from your story that is an arguable statement. Just be ready for the unexpected from now on, and I suggest going strict NC as well.
TheHurtProcess Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 from your story that is an arguable statement. Just be ready for the unexpected from now on, and I suggest going strict NC as well. I agree. This whole story has "high school drama" written all over it. Her and her friends really do sound like drama queens. I would just drop the idea of trying to be friends with your ex. I hate to say this and I'm not trying to offend you, but you seem rather naive. Seriously, if you keep it up with these morons, you're going to end up with a restraining order or worse... In jail. You may think they have nothing on you whatsoever, but I know woman that act like this and they will make up stories to tell the cops and next, you'll be in jail for "domestic violence". Trust me, leave this one be.
TheHurtProcess Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 I forgot to mention an example. I have a friend who was arrested and charged with domestic violence because his ex-gf went in another room and strangled herself when he stopped by. She then called the cops, showed them the marks and he was hauled off. Don't make this mistake my friend. Trust me, b****es be crazy.
Author micot Posted July 27, 2011 Author Posted July 27, 2011 that's totally messd up , how women can do those things n get away with it ,why don't guys do that crap ? THOUGH i was gonna print up like 500 flyers advertising a moving sale where everything must go and cheap and put my ex's address on them and saying a start time at like 6 pm sat and sun and put them up all over town heh heh wonder if that's ''harrasement '' hmmmm WELL anyways i did just call my ex and left a message telling her i'd love a call back from her to explain what the hell and why that happend with her friend tonight ........i prob wont get a reply though
TheHurtProcess Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 that's totally messd up , how women can do those things n get away with it ,why don't guys do that crap ? THOUGH i was gonna print up like 500 flyers advertising a moving sale where everything must go and cheap and put my ex's address on them and saying a start time at like 6 pm sat and sun and put them up all over town heh heh wonder if that's ''harrasement '' hmmmm WELL anyways i did just call my ex and left a message telling her i'd love a call back from her to explain what the hell and why that happend with her friend tonight ........i prob wont get a reply though hell... do it, hahaha. I wouldn't expect a reply, nor would I bother trying anymore. Just leave her be, go NO CONTACT, move on and heal. You'll be over her in no time.
Author micot Posted July 27, 2011 Author Posted July 27, 2011 yea i'm pretty much over her and whatever we had .She was the one who kept mentioning remaining ''friends'' i've always said nah . she didn't call me back about the message i left her, no surprise there. I did call this morning and she answerd , i said get my message wanna say anything about last night she said she doesn't have anything to say about it , i said ah o.k. whatever bye ....... NOW hatver goes on between us seeing each other in town , or her calling,e-mailing is just a game nothing more ,i'll try n keep it fun though
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