Ivan91 Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 My girfriend and I met a couple months ago. When we met she had one month until she shipped off to basic training. We talked for about a month. About three to five hours every night. We got to spend one weekend together one week before she shipped off. It was the best two days of my life. I knew she was leaving in a week but I still asked her to be my girlfriend because I never felt the way about somebody that I do her. Five weeks ago she shipped out and she has five weeks left until she graduates. She doesn't get to write much so it has been really hard lately because I have only got one letter so far. I'm keeping faith to help me through this. After basic she goes to San Antonio for AIT. She's on active duty and she doesn't know where she's going after that and I'm really worried it might not work. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? What helps a couple through times like this?
creighton0123 Posted July 28, 2011 Posted July 28, 2011 It sucks that the two of you, otherwise seemingly compatible, met when and where you did. If possible, you should ask her to write you letters more often and send them in bulk. That way, instead of receiving one letter every so often, you receive multiple letters. There is also no easy advice. Without steady and regular communication, a romantic relationship between the two of you is going to be very difficult and extremely emotionally draining on your part (since you are the one who is technically left behind). You need to decide whether or not you want this for the whole duration of her military career.
NadineZook Posted July 30, 2011 Posted July 30, 2011 Hey everyone, I'm NadineZook.. my hunny and I have only been together about a month but we've known each other about a year now, unfortunately hunny is on his 4th deployment and my first one as of today attract college girls
civibf Posted August 1, 2011 Posted August 1, 2011 I was in an LDR with a military girl. It's a tricky situation. Communication is really important. The distance and the fact that she'll be moving around and getting deployed is the hardest part. It really rushes the relationship along faster than normal because you need to figure out what the plan is for the future. You have to decide if you're willing to follow her around when she gets posted to different cities. My relationship didn't work out because, although I was willing to give everything up for her, she felt there was too much pressure on her for things to work out since I'd be leaving my home to be with her. Best of luck though!
Author Ivan91 Posted August 1, 2011 Author Posted August 1, 2011 Thanks for the advice guys. I appreciate you being honest. I'm going to try my best to make it work. I do get some really uplifting letters form her that make me feel better about it all. I'm just not sure what will happen after her basic when she goes on to AIT and her first staion.
PatFinkle Posted August 2, 2011 Posted August 2, 2011 A girl with an automatic weapon kind of scares me. Just kidding! Hope everything works out OK. --Pat F
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