Nukulus Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 So, tonight I was stood up on a date from a girl I met on Match. I'm really not sure how I feel about it. On one hand I'm annoyed that I drove 25 minutes and spent time out of my day to go meet her somewhere, and on the other I'm just feeling kinda meh about it. We had gone on one previous date last tuesday, and had a great time playing mini-golf and grabbing some ice cream. The date lasted almost 3.5 hours. I didn't make make a move or anything at the end of it because I like first dates to be pretty low pressure. Both said we had a great time and began making plans to meet again. Firmed up plans last night to meet for dinner and bowling at 6:30. Everythings good to go. We text each other back and forth into the early afternoon today. I go home from work, work out, get ready, head out, and I'm at the bowling alley by 6:30. Wait half an hour, she doesn't show and doesn't respond to her phone. I'm utterly perplexed haha, as all indications from conversations earlier today were that everything was fine and we were good to go for our date. Anyway, I sent her two texts. One at 6:30 saying I had arrived and was waiting in the parking lot. I called her at 6:45 and left a voicemail asking if she had trouble finding the place, and at 7:00 texted her saying that I was heading home because I hadn't heard from her and that I hoped everything was ok. Anyway, It's a weird feeling to be sure, but I'll get over it. I suppose I had to be stood up sometime in my life, and I guess at 24 I've made it a decent length of time. Anyone else been stood up before (in a way that you truley have no idea why?)
thatone Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 1% chance she had an emergency, 99% chance she's just flaky and selfish. on the bright side, she did you a favor, you saved the time of wasting another day on her.
Imajerk17 Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 Hopefully you hear back from her ASAP with a serious apology. I don't care if she decided at 5:30 that she wasn't feeling it or whatever, her behavior barring a real emergency was just classless.
Fondue Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 I'm a firm believer in karma. Hopefully something comes back and bites her in the ass .
Casablanca Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 I've had it happen before...though it was a just a lunch meeting....I rather them just ignore my texts and calls to avoid me asking for a second date or something than just not show up
Author Nukulus Posted July 27, 2011 Author Posted July 27, 2011 Well, I decided to check my email, and lo and behold she had sent me an email at 5 pm today. She basically said Stop! Don't leave as she had locked her phone, purse and keys to her house and car in her car. She had to a long way to a friends, then wait for that friend to get off work at 7, and then call another friend who has a spare set of her keys, and that she was lucky she had her ipod in her pocket (from which she sent the email). She offered to reschedule for tomorrow (or another day), said she was really annoyed with herself, yada yada, apology apology.... Now I do think this is sounds like a legit excuse (especially since her email was tagged at the bottom sent from my iPod), but she had to bail/reschedule our first date initially since she had a surprise visit from a friend from out of town. So it's two dates in a row that something has come up with her. Coincidence? I dunno, but it's probably too early to tell. Either way, my "being flaked out on" radar is up an operational with this one.
Better'n Outer Space Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 Gotta admit, that is one clever excuse.
sm1tten Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 I think it's a good sign that she immediately offered to reschedule.
Imajerk17 Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 (edited) Well, I decided to check my email, and lo and behold she had sent me an email at 5 pm today. She basically said Stop! Don't leave as she had locked her phone, purse and keys to her house and car in her car. She had to a long way to a friends, then wait for that friend to get off work at 7, and then call another friend who has a spare set of her keys, and that she was lucky she had her ipod in her pocket (from which she sent the email). She offered to reschedule for tomorrow (or another day), said she was really annoyed with herself, yada yada, apology apology.... Now I do think this is sounds like a legit excuse (especially since her email was tagged at the bottom sent from my iPod), but she had to bail/reschedule our first date initially since she had a surprise visit from a friend from out of town. So it's two dates in a row that something has come up with her. Coincidence? I dunno, but it's probably too early to tell. Either way, my "being flaked out on" radar is up an operational with this one. Shiat happens. Even twice. Give the girl another chance. Edited July 27, 2011 by Imajerk17
Casablanca Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 Shiat happens. Even twice. Give the girl another chance. I would be iffy, but I agree with this,give her another chance and see what happens
Chicago_Guy Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 Well, I decided to check my email, and lo and behold she had sent me an email at 5 pm today. She basically said Stop! Don't leave as she had locked her phone, purse and keys to her house and car in her car. She had to a long way to a friends, then wait for that friend to get off work at 7, and then call another friend who has a spare set of her keys, and that she was lucky she had her ipod in her pocket (from which she sent the email). She offered to reschedule for tomorrow (or another day), said she was really annoyed with herself, yada yada, apology apology.... Now I do think this is sounds like a legit excuse (especially since her email was tagged at the bottom sent from my iPod), but she had to bail/reschedule our first date initially since she had a surprise visit from a friend from out of town. So it's two dates in a row that something has come up with her. Coincidence? I dunno, but it's probably too early to tell. Either way, my "being flaked out on" radar is up an operational with this one. Based on what you wrote, I would say that this girl is a complete flake. If she really had locked her keys in her car, do you really believe that she didn't know that until right before you were supposed to meet? She probably just wants to string you along - let this one go.
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