NursingGirl Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Hi, I'm new here. I have been dating this guy for alittle over two months. I think he's pretty into me because we have been seeing each other every weekend now for awhile (all weekend as a matter of fact), he texts or calls me everyday and he mentions future oriented stuff together. I was surprised the other night when I was over that he said, "This is the happiest moment of my life." He is sometimes silly but he didn't say it in a kidding way (and that would be weird) but he also is not overly expressive at this point to say something like THAT! I was kinda shocked but I said, "Really?" And he said, "Yes, really." Would this have taken you by surprise? Do I really take it at face value? It wasn't at one of those ultra physical times if you know what I mean. lol
Author NursingGirl Posted July 27, 2011 Author Posted July 27, 2011 Someone tell me what you think! I just think that is a pretty odd thing to say, don't you? I mean of ALL the moments in life...that one was his favorite? After dating for 2 1/2 months? He had a LTR but that's been three years ago. I guess since he doesn't say things he doesn't mean and my hearing is good...he must have really meant it. I still think it's an odd choice of words though.
thehead Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 It's a little extreme but how well do you know his past? Maybe it is the happiest he's ever been. Did he have a lot of struggles? Did he have a lot of loneliness? If a woman expressed that to me, I wouldn't take it as a red flag. I would take it as a compliment. It seemed to make you uncomfortable though, is that right?
Author NursingGirl Posted July 27, 2011 Author Posted July 27, 2011 It's a little extreme but how well do you know his past? Maybe it is the happiest he's ever been. Did he have a lot of struggles? Did he have a lot of loneliness? If a woman expressed that to me, I wouldn't take it as a red flag. I would take it as a compliment. It seemed to make you uncomfortable though, is that right? Well...other than the long term relationship he had that ended three years ago, I don't think he has had another relationship since then. He had one other girl he dated and I don't think that was but a few dates with her. He is alittle on the effeminate side in terms of mannerisms. He's heterosexual though, lol. I really DO like him! But honestly, though if it is sincere, I'm flattered, I just don't really get that. Maybe I'm just too cynical and jaded at this point to accept hearing that? I mean, wow, of all of life's experiences, dating someone after two months is the best? Yes, I'm jaded I think. If I could see down the road alittle and think it is going to turn out to BE anything then yes, I could relax and say we are having a pretty good time together. Boy, sorry, does that answer your question? I had an engagement end at the beginning of this year and I think my mind is still trying to wrap itself around that. I think I've lost my faith in any guy really KNOWING what the heck he wants!
thatone Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 it's pretty common after a long dry spell to get overly attached to the first person you meet. the best of us have done it, it can't be helped. that said, relax, be yourself. he's either sincere or if he discovers later that it was just the sex talking, he'll calm down. either way isn't necessarily bad, so just take it in stride, imo.
Author NursingGirl Posted July 27, 2011 Author Posted July 27, 2011 it's pretty common after a long dry spell to get overly attached to the first person you meet. the best of us have done it, it can't be helped. that said, relax, be yourself. he's either sincere or if he discovers later that it was just the sex talking, he'll calm down. either way isn't necessarily bad, so just take it in stride, imo. The question from "thehead" kinda clued me in to guy thinking and you are supporting it so I guess my question is answered. I just try to be careful about saying anything real committed or emotional in the beginning like that because it has to stand the test of time before having any real meaning. At least it wasn't manipulative.
thatone Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 yeah, i don't think you're obligated to respond and encourage him. little shy smiles as a response to such things go a long way, let him survive on those til he gets his head straight (the one on his shoulders).
Author NursingGirl Posted July 27, 2011 Author Posted July 27, 2011 yeah, i don't think you're obligated to respond and encourage him. little shy smiles as a response to such things go a long way, let him survive on those til he gets his head straight (the one on his shoulders). I meant "thehead" the previous poster in this thread if there was any misunderstanding. But yeah, ok. I'll stop analyzing it and figure he is elated his lonely streak is over.
thatone Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 I meant "thehead" the previous poster in this thread if there was any misunderstanding. But yeah, ok. I'll stop analyzing it and figure he is elated his lonely streak is over. yeah, i got that! that's still what i meant .
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