hot damn Posted August 10, 2011 Share Posted August 10, 2011 (edited) ... About the biggest thing I do that would constitute a mommas boy, is I would call my mom when the wife and I had a huge fight, and just was at a loss as to what to do (the months leading up the our divorce).... i don't think that is momma's boy-ish tbh- i mean, doesn't everybody do that? someone to turn to who knows them very well... would be silly not to vent to them once in a while, if your name isn't norman bates! and elizabeth- don't even get me STARTED on toilet paper! i had to ask him if he was eating the stuff! what lasts me two months, lasts him a week! don't ask me... living away from home, teaches you that toilet paper does not grow on trees! oh god........................... and the baby voice stuff- i mentioned "ugh, that's so girly i don't like that, you're a MAN!" and he said something to the effect of "i am a nice person, i will not stop showing affection". talk about not getting it! (sounds somewhat like we have been seeing the same guy:rolleyes:) or maybe he's GAY! i also relate to sleepy kitten's quote above. "i'm very LUCKY to be living at home IN MY THIRTIES, what are you, jealous?" and "stunted development" and "overwhelmed by life's options", AND the "thing for older women" bit. it's REALLY uncanny, all the similarities, that tick all those mommaboy boxes, they're like symptoms of a disease! also shocked me somewhat, someone's (don't remember who sorry) therapist explained to them that mommas boys are often more far gone than alcoholics... but that paragraph really stuck with me. all pretty scary stuff tbh. watched the movie 'failure to launch' yesterday- made me giggle some, but at least the momma's boy in that movie was HOT STUFF and had a PORSCHE~! Edited August 10, 2011 by hot damn Link to post Share on other sites
Author elizabeth26 Posted August 12, 2011 Author Share Posted August 12, 2011 i don't think that is momma's boy-ish tbh- i mean, doesn't everybody do that? someone to turn to who knows them very well... would be silly not to vent to them once in a while, if your name isn't norman bates! and elizabeth- don't even get me STARTED on toilet paper! i had to ask him if he was eating the stuff! what lasts me two months, lasts him a week! don't ask me... living away from home, teaches you that toilet paper does not grow on trees! oh god........................... and the baby voice stuff- i mentioned "ugh, that's so girly i don't like that, you're a MAN!" and he said something to the effect of "i am a nice person, i will not stop showing affection". talk about not getting it! (sounds somewhat like we have been seeing the same guy:rolleyes:) or maybe he's GAY! i also relate to sleepy kitten's quote above. "i'm very LUCKY to be living at home IN MY THIRTIES, what are you, jealous?" and "stunted development" and "overwhelmed by life's options", AND the "thing for older women" bit. it's REALLY uncanny, all the similarities, that tick all those mommaboy boxes, they're like symptoms of a disease! also shocked me somewhat, someone's (don't remember who sorry) therapist explained to them that mommas boys are often more far gone than alcoholics... but that paragraph really stuck with me. all pretty scary stuff tbh. watched the movie 'failure to launch' yesterday- made me giggle some, but at least the momma's boy in that movie was HOT STUFF and had a PORSCHE~! I just don't get it! Lol, I felt like I was raising a child, "it's wrong to take toilet paper from your grandparents, don't wait til you have none, buy your own!" It was more like child-rearing than dating. And! He never took me anywhere. I know it's better to break up when you know it isn't working. He was so sweet though, but TOO sweet I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
Author elizabeth26 Posted August 12, 2011 Author Share Posted August 12, 2011 From a guys perspective, who has a very healthy relationship with his mother, OP's BF sounds like too much of a momma's boy. I talk to my mom about once a week or two, or call her for advice on cooking/gardening (yes, I like my yard to be lansdcaped, and I like to cook). I was raised by a "single mom", but had regular visits with my father, and they were both on good terms, so that may of made a difference. I was also raised to be independent. She didn't bitch and moan when we went to my exW's family for holidays, although we tried to split them up evenly. She would just call and give me the dates and times, and said if we can make it, it'd be great, if not, she understood completely. I meet these college guys who go home to moms house every weekend to see her....weird to me. I work in the VA office at the college as a student worker, and we have VETERANS who MOMS call on behalf of their son... About the biggest thing I do that would constitute a mommas boy, is I would call my mom when the wife and I had a huge fight, and just was at a loss as to what to do (the months leading up the our divorce), and the reason I would, is because she would be completely honest. I would tell her what was going on, and she would tell me if I was jacked up and wrong. But no matter WHAT I went to with my mom, for the very very few times I did, she NEVER held it against her, and never once did she bad mouth my ex, to her or to me, even after the divorce. Wezel, I would call the relationship you described, a very healthy relationship! Your Mom sounds very sweet, she respects your boundries and knows, if you need her you will call. I have a similar relationship with my Dad and it's a really great thing. Link to post Share on other sites
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