I confessed my cheating by accident, how can I win her back?

[dreamingoftigers]

Well we don't like slutty guys either.

 

We actually don't. And if you think that she doesn't have imagery going on right now, you are brain damaged.

 

My husband's cheating is the worst thing that has ever happened to me. If she is young and has relatively few traumatic experiences in her past, you have likely hurt her in a way that she isn't going to be able to move past for awhile.

 

Since you haven't been cheated on, you don't know what the Hell you have done.

 

Leave her the Hell alone, she doesn't need the "bringer of her deepest pain" making multiple appearances at her front door.

[RoderM5]

If she is young and has relatively few traumatic experiences in her past, you have likely hurt her in a way that she isn't going to be able to move past for awhile.

Yes she's 19 and has only been with 2 other guys (I was her 3rd).

 

Since you haven't been cheated on, you don't know what the Hell you have done.

No I haven't. This is the only relationship I ever had and can't believe I was so stupid.

 

Leave her the Hell alone, she doesn't need the "bringer of her deepest pain" making multiple appearances at her front door.

That's what I was doing until I followed by friends' advice. They're the ones who told me that if I did that, I would win her back.

[Memphis Raines]

I would have ditch her. There would be no way I can stay with her after what she did.

 

BINGO! then you should leave her alone. you would ditch her, but expect her to give you a 2nd chance. do you hear yourself here?

 

 

Sucking another guy or ****ing him is a big deal to us guys.

 

 

ya, and what you did was a big deal to her.

 

 

The only way out of this (if it she would have cheated that way) would be to get even by doing the same, possibly with 2 women at a club.

 

but the scenario I posed was that she could have done this to even the score because of what you did.

 

So you are saying that if you cheat, then she cheats in return, that you have to one up her again?

 

 

 

[qjuote]I then might reconsider but then I don't know, still end up dumping her. Or if I were to still stay (without getting revenge), then I'll remind her about it for as long as I want to.

 

ok, then, don't say a damn word to her if she takes you back, but throws this in your face alot. you just said yourself thats what you would do.

 

So if she takes you back and throws it in your face, you are just going to have to say "yes honey" and take it.

 

 

No I don't hit girls. I would have done as stated above. We don't like slutty girls.

 

but you are a slutty guy, so thats kind of stupid for you to say.

 

 

I know it would be hypocritical but we can't stand another dude messing with our girl. By doing that and knowing it's my girl, he's challenging me to a fight right away.

 

 

do you hear yourself? "She is MY girl"!! really? is this what was running through your mind when you cheated on YOUR girl, your property?

[RoderM5]

but the scenario I posed was that she could have done this to even the score because of what you did.

Yes it would even the score but I might have to leave her unless I'm too drunk enough to take her back. I don't think I would be able to handle that for too long. We're just simply not very good at forgiving a girl for that. She can do practically anything in the relationship and even ignore me or become mean except sleeping or blowing another dude.

 

ok, then, don't say a damn word to her if she takes you back, but throws this in your face alot. you just said yourself thats what you would do.

 

So if she takes you back and throws it in your face, you are just going to have to say "yes honey" and take it.

I wouldn't mind that at all and won't argue but her cheating back would be harder for me to accept. To be honest very, very few guys would forgive a girl for that.

but you are a slutty guy, so thats kind of stupid for you to say.

I regret what I did and wish to take it back but it's worst when your girl cheats on you. The girl becomes used (tainted) right away and you just don't want to touch her anymore.

do you hear yourself? "She is MY girl"!! really? is this what was running through your mind when you cheated on YOUR girl, your property

Well you have to understand to us, our our girl is the same as your car. You don't trade your car with anymore nor let anyone borrow it.

[dreamingoftigers]

What you really don't seem to get is that guys like you just become tainted to us too. Lots of married women with children will try to save their marriage after their idiot husbands cheat because they don't want to lose their "family unit" for the sake of their children. We tend to love our children more then our spouses by far and therefore are sometimes willing to take the hit for the bigger picture.

 

But really if you ask a woman who can't see your perspective which is worse (guy or girl cheating) she'll say it is worse for the guy to cheat.

 

I believed that for a long time that guys don't even really hurt when their women cheat, it is just more insulting to them and they look at her like she us a whore to be tossed away. But having read on LS over the past 1.5 years how much it does hurt guys changed my mind.

 

Again, you have no idea what you've done. And quite frankly, you just don't get it.

 

Why would this woman ever invest in any kind of relationship when she can't even trust his slutty ass to go to a party without a babysitter?

 

Why would she ever invest anymore emotional energy into someone who is going to hurt her to the core in the DATING STAGE?

 

How could she ever count on you in a relationship if she gets old, sick and has kids with you etc. if you can't even be counted on to go to a party and be honest about the crap that went down there?

 

Seriously. If you think it affects guys more, you are slow. Traditionally you are supposed to be this woman's protector, not just her body, but her heart as well. Instead you turned that on it's ass and stabbed her in the heart. First with the cheating, then with the lies. Real men don't pull this bull****. And when a guy is close enough to being a man that he makes a mistake like that, he owns it instead of trying to hide under the covers and pretend it didn't happen.

 

You can't expect her to see you as anything else besides someone who just couldn't keep his dick in line. And for a man, that is a real pathetic weakness to us. Even for the more forgiving of us.

[RoderM5]

I'm glad this happened to you....now leave her the f'ck alone.

And that's what I'm doing now. You don't have to vent out on my thread. I did nothing to you. Take your frustration somewhere else.

[RoderM5]

You can't expect her to see you as anything else besides someone who just couldn't keep his dick in line. And for a man, that is a real pathetic weakness to us. Even for the more forgiving of us.

But it never got to sex. I made out and received oral from her (she went down on me).

 

Just that from my experience I have 2 friends who cheated but their gfs took them back and it seems to be getting better with them. Needless to say I felt guilty since that day and thought that by hiding this, it would prevent her from this burden. I won't ever cheat on a girl again.

Edited August 3, 2011 by RoderM5

[dreamingoftigers]

Good for you not cheating on a girl again.

 

For the record it is called oral sex.

 

It is a sexual act with one's genitals involving orgasm.

 

The rest is positioning and technicalities.

 

It does seem to be a masculine trait to try to minimize fault. (Feminine one to maximize it).

 

As for your friends, I haven't experienced seeing that very often for sure. I think it is quite sad that a girl would take a guy back with that obvious proclivity at such a young age. It sets them up for quite a lousy future experience.

[RoderM5]

After you pull the dildo out of your mistress's pussy, push it hard up into your own ass.

It would be very helpful if you stop posting complete garbage on my thread.

GET LOST ALREADY.....