lovesickkit Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Dear friends reading, I got a divorce a year and a half ago and I was very closed off to dating. Then I met my co worker (we work at an elementry school) and we hit it off. It was a whirlwind romance and we moved very fast. The emotions were always high and we argued quite a bit. We had several breakups in our 1 year of dating. It was very difficult to see him at work when we were on an "off" stage. We always end up back together though--except this time, I feel like there's no going back. A new girl at our work got hired, she and I became friends and the witch HAD a boyfriend but was interested in my ex. I let her know that he and I were dating and that we are still trying to work things out (just last week he was over at my house saying how bad he wants to make things work). However, behind my back I found out that he invited her out for drinks. (because she told me, so I THOUGHT she was friend) WRONG. When I confronted him, he said "well if you want to come, you can come!" it ended up just being the 3 of us going out which was so awkward. They were dancing all over each other IN FRONT of me, so I slapped him across the face and took a cab home. That night he called me (as I expected) and told me "hope you got home safe". I find out later that he had spent the night there. I cried and cried and accused him of liking her. He insisted there was nothing there between them and that she has a boyfriend. So I said "well then BE WITH ME" and he said he needed time to think about it cause we were so back and forth. Now I know the truth though, he wanted HER. I ended up finding his car there again at her apartment and he spent all of last weekend with her. It crushes me. She nor him have tried to contact me. This all happened less than a week ago. I quit my job and I'm at home now trying to feel better. Last night I texted him asking for CLOSURE, for him to just tell me he's dating her--cause apparently she dumped her "boyfriend". He called me last night from her house saying "we are done, I can do whatever I want and there is NOTHING there between her and I." He is STILL denying it. I asked him to come meet me face to face and he said "no, you've caused so much drama at work and you posted on facebook what a terrible person I am, when I don't want to be with her!". my gut feeling tells me they hooked up. It's too obvious. He's usually NEVER this confident that he's over me. I like a pathetic fool texted him one last time saying "all i want is to be friends, i wish you wanted that too" he texted back saying "i need some space from you, maybe when all this blows over" Isn't that a good sign? Well..should I go no contact now?! Please don't tell me that I'm spineless, I already feel that way 8-( I just want him back as my friend and for my ego as well. Thank god I feel a little better after knowing he wants to be my friend after everything boils over, but I want him to miss me! What do I do! Help ladies/friends/guys! please! -lovesickkit
coltsfan1 Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 You are NOT spineless, you are strong for trying to do the impossible. Trying to work things out with someone that can't make up their mind. I asked my cheating ex to work it out with me, she choose not too. So I walked, period. My advice is to turn away from both of them, you don't have to hate them you just have to walk for your own good..
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