t_i Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Hiya! Asking for thoughts and advice. One reason because I cant seem to make any choices for myself, and another due to the fact that over the last week reading posts here have actually helped alot Original story : http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t288605/ After last time after 4 days NC on Thursday he missed me, I jumped and he then changed his mind. Of course I wont make THAT mistake again. Now its been 5 days NC again, not going to lie - I've been going crazy over this girl who he's been texting - its been a sore topic in the relationship which he yelled at me for being paranoid over. I've looked at her photos in a very self pitying way thinking shes so much prettier and just DIFFERENT to me, shes 5"11, stick thin, bleach blonde, and like an english rose and quite chavvy... (im 5"6, brunette, size 10/curvy, and half italian). Was I ever his type? Making myself feel rubbish as he was once the perfect boyfriend for me - took care of me, dedicated etc.... And over the last god knows how many months hes being a nightmare, as have I (I can be VERY stroppy, I dont let things drop and I need alot of reasurrance after hes broken trust before) Anyway, today... I had a missed call - which i ignored. Then a text saying he wanted to speak to me. I declined and I said if he had anything to say he could text me. Basically the next few hours hes basically demanded to know if I pulled on my night out, how I could be fine. I ignored all these texts. Which qued MORE texts begging me to reply, if I replied he'd go away, I needed to gain some consideration for him. I answered the next call and said no - I wasnt going to reply and when he said 'is it really over' I said 'yes, of course it is, you dumped me and youve pretty much run off with the other girl' (que a few more desperate texts saying to reply) I eventually replying saying I owed him nothing, and he chose to leave me and he had to deal with it. I told him I didnt pull to make him go away - so he could hopefully show me he was just trying to gain information that I was still having a tough time and go away like before, feeding his ego. It didnt work like that. He started calling me a cunt saying I havent changed - he knew I wasnt nice and thats why he broke up with me, as I wasnt the nice person I used to be etc etc Then he started saying he thought about me all day every day etc and he thought I'd go home and think about changing. Also, when I was mopey and crying on him last week when he dumped me - he thought I'd change, and how me being tough now - was leading him on. Anyway to stop rabbiting on - he said he has seen her once - as a friend and nothing more. If he didn't love me he'd be texting her more, that if I dont love him I need to tell him to move on, but he doesnt want to move on. Now hes asking what I want. I dont know what to do. Our relationship is warped. I'd need to have ALOT from him now to show hes not going to be a twat again. Does he even deserve another chance to show me? Does he even want me back or is this him trying to controll or manipulate? I guess I could tell him to go away. But I dont want 6 months down the line to wonder... Was this the penny dropping for him? Thoughts?
ThatBwoii Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 you look like a gorgeous girrl, this guy is stupid to let you go after whati have read, his loss.
Author t_i Posted July 26, 2011 Author Posted July 26, 2011 you look like a gorgeous girrl, this guy is stupid to let you go after whati have read, his loss. I guess I'm ridiculously insecure and needed alot of attention? I pushed him away alot. He keeps calling and I dont know what to do, I'm not sure if this is genuine or not.
EgoJoe Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 Thatbwoi is right. I've done the back and forth thing myself wanting to "dump" but it was because SHE was distant, indecisive etc. Go NC with a purpose. Tell him how it is and what is acceptable to break contact. Be strong. You'll heal in time.
leoc1973 Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 I am full blooded italian and american so over here you would be perfect a curvy decent height girl. and that picture of you, you are gorgeous. Screw that guy. I think girls have regrets later on when they have dumped a good guy not a cheating piece of crap. You can do better!
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