Nicerudy Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Good afternoon everyone, I'm brand new to your forum and hope that y'all can help me figure out what I should do to get the woman that I love more than anything back after a pretty crappy deal... Let me explain. Two weeks ago the Little League team I was coaching made it to the State Tournament. We didn't make it to the championship, but one of our neighborhood teams did. The other guy I coach with called me up and suggested we go cheer for them. So we went to the game. It started at about 8.00P and has a two hour time limit. At roughly 10.05P the game ended and we hung around for the celebration and awards ceremony. Sometime between 10.15P-10.30P we left and headed home, which was about 20 minutes away. I rolled in my garage about 10.40P. At 10.45P I get a text from my girlfriend of the last three years saying, "Tell me honestly, was that you?" Not know what she was talking about, I said, "Me where?" She responded, "Nevermind then." Still curious what she was talking about, I called her. She told me that at about 10.30P she saw a truck similar to mine sitting in a parking lot behind her house that was pointed facing her bedroom window. We discussed where I was and I told her that we left sometime after 10.00P not knowing the exact time. She told me that they left when she turned on her lights. I thought I had assured her there was no way possible for me to get from where the game was to her house and to my house in that time frame. I figured it was a done deal, I figured she understood it couldn't have been me. The next day I didn't hear from her at all, which was really odd because we text back and forth almost the entire day, everyday. So Saturday morning, I head over to her house to do her yard work like I did every week for the past three years. She didn't even acknowledge I was there, which again was odd, so I figured something must be wrong. I knocked on her door and her daughter told me that she was in the tub and couldn't talk. I left and sent her a message saying that we obviously have a problem, so lets talk about it. Five or six hours later I got a text from her saying, "All I have to say to you is that I want my garage remote and house key back." I asked what was up and she said, "Because I can't trust you." I asked her why and her response was, "I know that was you hiding behind my house the other night." I called the guy I was with and he called her and left her a message about where we were and when we left. He told her that we left sometime between 10.15P-10.30P, but because I had originally told her "sometime" after 10.00P she refuses to believe him and figures I told him to lie for me. So, here I am, almost two weeks later and we haven't said hardly anything to each other. I figure time might heal the wound, even though I didn't do anything, but I want to know from you ladies out there, what do you suggest? I really love this woman and hate the thought of losing three years of serious commitment. Let me know.
nikkinicole36 Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 This sounds awful weird on her part and it sounds like she honestly just wanted to break up. The fact that you have proof that you obviously wasn't hiding behind her house and the fact that she doesn't even want to give you a chance to explain yourself sounds crazy. Unless you have a history of infidelity or lying to her, I can't think of any reason why she would feel like she couldn't trust you based on your post. The fact that after 3 years of being together and she can cut you out after what amounts to basically nothing, is proof that this must not be the woman you thought she was. There is nothing more you can do at this point. I wouldn't even consider it a loss. My ex broke up with me for almost nothing too. People like that have something else going on. My best bet is another guy or just wanting out. At this point I would advise you not to contact her again. She's definitely gaslighting you at this point.
Casablanca Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 So did she think you were peeping on her to catch her changing or checking to see if she was cheating on you?
Author Nicerudy Posted July 26, 2011 Author Posted July 26, 2011 I know for a fact she isn't cheating on me, she's not that kind of person and I can't even spend the night when her daughter is home, so having another guy in her life doesn't even enter my mind. As for peeping, if I was in her neighborhood, I would have gone to her house and spent time with her, I don't need to peep. However, her family has now helped her label me as a stalker.
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