yeahlori Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 A few months ago I met this new guy at my workplace. He is nice and cute and I started to chat him up daily. He seemed a little shy, but still talkative whenever I initiated the convo and he seemed happy to talk to me. I caught him looking at me several times and he would hold my gaze for about a second longer than most people. I can usually tell when a guy would be interested in me. It seemed like there was a possibility of something there. After a couple weeks of talking to him at work, I wanted to get to know him outside of work...so I took it upon myself to find his facebook profile (it was easy to find him) and decided to shoot him a message but I never got a reply. I know he's been on since I sent it to him because he has changed his profile pic quite a few times. I figured he either may have gotten creeped out by my finding him without asking him in person or something, or maybe he thought it was too soon and doesn't trust me to be a facebook friend just yet? I don't know. Either way, I took that as rejection and decided to try to just forget it and act like I didn't even send it. I didn't want him thinking I was some crazy clingy stalker chick so I just acted normal around him at work afterwards. After I realized he didn't reply to my message, I thought he would start ignoring me at work, but he still acts nice and friendly to me. He has even initiated a couple convos with me this week. There is still something different about the way he talks to me than with most guys. In person, I still get a feeling about him, and I can't get him out of my head. I just want to get to know him better. I'm not looking to jump into a relationship or anything, but I'm not sure if he is interested in getting to know me or if he's just being nice. I want to come off as interesting to him, not creepy or clingy. Any thoughts?
Eddie Edirol Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Just ask him for coffee after work. Dont be so afraid of rejection. You will get your answer only when you ask him.
Casablanca Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Just ask him for coffee after work. Dont be so afraid of rejection. You will get your answer only when you ask him. I'd do this...there are a lot of people who dont check any of there messages and such at all or very rarely
morethanconfused Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Why is everyone so obsessed with FB these days? I just don’t get it. What happened to having a few nice conversations and asking each other out on a date? I mean seriously, did I miss something? How old are we? It’s like being back at school where teenagers wrote questions on scrip like “Do you want to go out with me? Please mark yes, no, maybe.” Do we really have to check via FB first if someone might be interested in us? Does it mean that someone has to add me on FB first before I can be sure that it would be safe to ask him/her out on a date? I don’t mean to be rude and I totally get the confusion. I know it’s hard to ask someone out and I know that almost everyone is afraid of being rejected. But seriously, we have to stop to set such great value on FB. It is just a stupid website, where bored people are posting useless and mindless things all day. If you really like this guy and if you would like to get to know him better: Just ask him if he would like to have a cup of coffee with you. I am sure he will appreciate your courage even if he might not be interested. You go, girl! And please keep us updated! ;o)
Eddie Edirol Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 Do we really have to check via FB first if someone might be interested in us? Does it mean that someone has to add me on FB first before I can be sure that it would be safe to ask him/her out on a date? Its not that people put great value in FB, but when you dont have someones email, you look them up on facebook. Theyre not "checking" FB first, they are just minimalizing the rejection, because some people cant handle bieng told no to their face. It is immature and reduces character, but not everyone is a leader. I sure as hell dont do it if I want to ask the person out. Its a damn shame that the OP sees him everyday and is too chicken to ask him for coffee ....whats the expression about water flowing the path of least resistance? People do it too.
Author yeahlori Posted July 27, 2011 Author Posted July 27, 2011 I agree with what you guys are saying, and yeah it is a chicken **** move on my part, and I feel like I could take a risk and just ask him to his face but what scares me most is not about getting rejected, it's about having to see him and work with him and the awakwardness of it all after I got rejected. I have asked guys out before to their face and it didn't bother me as much knowing that I didn't have to see him every day after the rejection if I didn't want to.
TigerCub Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 I'm gonna guess that he is interested in you - but he most likely has a girlfriend (evidence of her would be on his facebook - through friends access) - that's why he's not making you a FB friend, but still shows interest when he's around you. Just a guess - and btw I'm very cynical, but honestly, something to consider...
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