You ever get a sudden pain in your heart, and think they must be feeling it too?

[proteinshake25]

Recently, I get a sudden rush of pain right to my heart, and I think at that given moment she must be feeling it too. Im tempted to contact her and just say something like "if your hurting too,please dont refrain from contacting me." I ended the relationship, and she's with someone else, for nearly the entire time we've been broken up, but I know she isnt truly happy with her guy.

[0hpenelope]

Maybe. No one really knows except your ex perhaps, but I'm sure it will sound weird if you just let her know about that. Also, conventional perspectives will tell you in general that it's all "In your head."

 

I think it's okay to acknowledge the possibility that you're right, but it's also more probable that she's not feeling the pain in the exact same way you do. She's with someone else. She may not be happy but I can't knock on her for trying to move on without you. She's doing her best to move on and I do admire her for being able to put herself out there again.

 

You have your work cut out for you, brother. Good luck.

[radiodarcy]

i used to. but not really anymore. i still get them but it's more like a twinge. i just sort of experience and let it pass.

 

no point in doing anything about it. he's long since moved on and contacting him will do no good.

 

not to sound harsh - -but did you consider that even if your ex isn't happy with the new guy, that doesn't necessarily mean she wants to get back with you? you did dump her. she may not want to run the risk of contacting you again out of fear of being hurt.

 

i should know, i'm the dumpee and there is no way i am going to run the risk of reaching out. being dumped/rejected the last time was bad enough. once he dumped me i resolved to move on emotionally so that he wouldn't be able to have that kind of power to hurt me again.your ex may being trying to do the same.