Timbo22 Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 For me what hurts the most out of my 3 1/2 yr relationship with my 1st love is the fact that I was always there for her no matter what! When we 1st dated she was a mess, she told me I gave her a backbone. We had such a bond and a crazy love for each other I thought it would never end and I felt like the luckiest man in the world when she told me she wanted to marry me. I left a family Vacation and took a bus 1000 miles and slept outside a greyhound bus station just to get back to her. I left parties cus she was so insecure, I would do anything for her.I was told I had her heart in my hand, I was told she couldn't imagine life without me. I could make her laugh and smile like the snap of my finger, and just like the snap of the finger she left me out of the blue. It has been 6 months today since our break-up, Iv'e been strung along and hurt ever since. I want to tell myself no more, but she just pops in my head randomly and memories just flood in. Love is a understatement when it comes to how I felt about her. That is what hurts the most... ps: Another thing that really hurts too is getting almost any girl I want attracting them and making them want you, but the only person you want doesn't want you.
Dblock10 Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 yeah join the club! apart from mine moved on and went cold turkey on me. took me a year to get over her. never looked back since now that i have moved on i am GLAD. if you can attract and get any girl you want mate... wow she must be some kind of perfect supermodel with the personality of an angel... but then again i doubt it. your just stuck on the good memories
Bito Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 Do not idealize her. She does not deserve it. You have to remove her from the pedestal in your mind if you are to move on. I just lost my first love to so i know the pain. She told me how she would die without me and how we would be together forever etc, etc, etc. Really though, actions speak louder then words. She left. Accept it and in time things will start to work out in your favor. It is human nature to want what you can not have. Realize this and overcome your petty emotions and gut feelings. You must let your logical side assume control of your thought process. Remember what and how you are feeling can be controlled with enough determination and self will.
Author Timbo22 Posted July 26, 2011 Author Posted July 26, 2011 D-Block- All her friends had crushes on me including her best friend who tried sleeping with me numerous times during our relationship. I think she hated I got attention all the time, Its not like I ever asked for it though... I dont mean to come off as cocky either, because thats not who I am. It seems like all my friends are like that and alot of them have gf's they cheat on without even blinking a eye. Something I could never do. I also received a text from her this morning "Why is your friend adding me on facebook" It made me mad, I told her don't text me immature **** like that idc and dont text or call when your upset anymore because she does. She also wanted me to visit her last week when she called. I told her I didn't recognize the number when she called and she started crying, thank god I was out of town. She went on and on about how insecure she was and how sorry she is for doing this to me, how she has been on rock bottom and her recent BF was cheating on her and he broke up with her....hahaha really? I just recently blocked her from FB and deleted her number. I have to accept that she was the most self-centered, Insecure, deceiving and stubborn person I ever met. I wish it would stick and REALIZE SHE WAS TRASH. My mind and heart want two different things I guess.
coltsfan1 Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 Some men/women don't see value in someone that turns done advances. I can stand around a bar and girls hit on me, my ex would get terribly upset. I understand not wanting to see that, but a mature person would see some value in the fact that other people of the opposite sex would be attracted to their partner.
Surf Rider Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 For me what hurts the most out of my 3 1/2 yr relationship with my 1st love is the fact that I was always there for her no matter what! When we 1st dated she was a mess, she told me I gave her a backbone. We had such a bond and a crazy love for each other I thought it would never end and I felt like the luckiest man in the world when she told me she wanted to marry me. I left a family Vacation and took a bus 1000 miles and slept outside a greyhound bus station just to get back to her. I left parties cus she was so insecure, I would do anything for her.I was told I had her heart in my hand, I was told she couldn't imagine life without me. I could make her laugh and smile like the snap of my finger, and just like the snap of the finger she left me out of the blue. It has been 6 months today since our break-up, Iv'e been strung along and hurt ever since. I want to tell myself no more, but she just pops in my head randomly and memories just flood in. Love is a understatement when it comes to how I felt about her. That is what hurts the most... ps: Another thing that really hurts too is getting almost any girl I want attracting them and making them want you, but the only person you want doesn't want you. My ex told me that exact same thing, only problem is she lied about it. We were nuts about each other. She was so sick of her other ex bf and she was so glad to be with me. Then she had a change of mind, then left me. It killed me but i have healed. You deserve better. Good luck
R32 Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 I'm in the same boat man. We've been hanging out quite often recently, and I think the worst part is accepting who she's changed into. I miss the girl I fell in love with 4 years ago. Not the stuck up bitch she's turned into after 5 months in Europe. I always wonder how someone can change so much within such a short time span. It's disappointing, because she was a lot better than this.
Dblock10 Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 I'm in the same boat man. We've been hanging out quite often recently, and I think the worst part is accepting who she's changed into. I miss the girl I fell in love with 4 years ago. Not the stuck up bitch she's turned into after 5 months in Europe. I always wonder how someone can change so much within such a short time span. It's disappointing, because she was a lot better than this. r32, that sounds interesting. in what way did she change and how? ill read your post if you link it
Kuite09 Posted July 27, 2011 Posted July 27, 2011 For me what hurts the most out of my 3 1/2 yr relationship with my 1st love is the fact that I was always there for her no matter what! When we 1st dated she was a mess, she told me I gave her a backbone. We had such a bond and a crazy love for each other I thought it would never end and I felt like the luckiest man in the world when she told me she wanted to marry me. I left a family Vacation and took a bus 1000 miles and slept outside a greyhound bus station just to get back to her. I left parties cus she was so insecure, I would do anything for her.I was told I had her heart in my hand, I was told she couldn't imagine life without me. I could make her laugh and smile like the snap of my finger, and just like the snap of the finger she left me out of the blue. It has been 6 months today since our break-up, Iv'e been strung along and hurt ever since. I want to tell myself no more, but she just pops in my head randomly and memories just flood in. Love is a understatement when it comes to how I felt about her. That is what hurts the most... ps: Another thing that really hurts too is getting almost any girl I want attracting them and making them want you, but the only person you want doesn't want you. What hurts me the most is the fact they go from being there one day and gone the next and then not even bothering to contact you to see if you okay. I feel like I don't even know him anymore, like that man I am in love with is gone like if I see him tomorrow it prob won't even feel like hes the man I feel in love with. 7 yrs not 7 days nor weeks, nor months 7 YRS! Ugh sorry having a rough day LOL
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