fauxleather Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 So I've been dumped for about 6 weeks now, NC for a month already, ex broke NC about a week back asking me some weird questions that has nothing to do with our r/s. I replied her objectively and resumed NC anyways. And I've been thinking, every single day I still think about her. But I really want to get over this nonsense and start living life without her affecting me at all. I haven't been terribly depressed the past few days, haven't really been crying or anything, but I haven't been feeling perfectly well either. Been trying to get my life back, and been meeting up with friends daily and exercising and finding more purpose in life. But sometimes, I just can't help but to wonder, all these are really just forms of escapism wouldn't it be? I'm just using these as a form of distraction, to heal myself. Does anyone feel the same? How in the world can I really look at her picture, her online profile or anything, and seriously not get affected at all? I think that's what I really want to achieve, rather than avoiding her existence as an excuse to heal myself.
Bito Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 The only thing that will allow you to look at her picture without objectivity is time. I know it is cliche but that's the way it is. I know what you mean by everything your doing feels like your just trying to distract yourself from the pain. Sometimes my mind wont let me think of anything else but her. But as time passes those down moments become less and less frequent. Until one day they will disapate completly. I would suggest not viewing her online profile. This only delays the healing process. Remove her from your world entirely which includes the digital world. Keep your confidence up and remember its her loss not yours...
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