superchiefs Posted July 26, 2011 Posted July 26, 2011 So I have been dating a girl for a little over a month and things have been going well for the most part, except, I sort of feel like we arent spending enough physical time together. She lives an hour away, so that already makes things a bit tough. It just seems like she spends most of her free time with her friends, she goes out with them, gets drunk and then calls me several times throughout the night. She also sends me text messages and facebook messages, so she certainly is showing me a lot of attention and she is already telling me she is in love with me. It just seems like we should be spending more physical time together though. Since we havent been together that long, I really dont want to complain to her, so should I just not answer my phone when she calls? Or what is the best course of action in order to get her to want to spend more physical time with me?
Memphis Raines Posted August 5, 2011 Posted August 5, 2011 if she likes to go out with her girlfriends more, party, club, get drunk, then chances are she is spending physical time with other guys. that is the whole reason to party. otherwise if no other men were around, they wouldn't think it would be as fun. I know, people will say I'm full of it, but trust me, not one partying girl I have ever been with was to be trusted. there is a reason they party. you want more physical time? find a girl in your city, and one that doesn't feel the need to go out and get validated.
Kelemort Posted August 7, 2011 Posted August 7, 2011 How often do you see each other now in person? What other obligations does she have in her life - like school, work, family, hobbies, etc.? You need to take that into consideration when considering a two-hour round-trip visit. But yes, her constant outings make it seem a little bit questionable. If you've been dating for just a month or so - rather than setting strict timelines for when you'll see each other - why don't you call and say, "Hey, I've got some tickets to x. Wanna come for the weekend?" Or make a commitment for each of you to make a trip to the other once a week. Something. I don't feel there's anything wrong with that. But even a one-hour long distance relationship is going to be tough. I'm not going to say she's cheating on you, but you need to speak up.
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